133. Healing the Masculine: A Conversation with Dr. Brad Jacobs on Father Wounds & Modern Medicine
Plenty with Kate Northrup
Kate Northrup
4.8 • 840 Ratings
🗓️ 4 November 2025
⏱️ 52 minutes
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Summary
What if healing the masculine is the key to deeper love, better health, and a more peaceful world?
In this powerful episode of Plenty, I sit down with Dr. Brad Jacobs, an integrative precision medicine doctor and thought leader who bridges Western science, Eastern wisdom, and emotional intelligence. Together, we explore what it really looks like to heal father wounds, move beyond toxic masculinity, and find balance between strength and softness—both within men and in our relationships with them.
We talk about Brad’s personal journey from reactivity and anger to grounded emotional presence—a transformation that reshaped how he parents, partners, and practices medicine. You’ll hear how he learned to hold boundaries without shutting down, create safety without control, and embody a new model of masculine leadership rooted in awareness, humility, and heart.
We also dive into how our emotional patterns influence our health, the importance of processing anger and stress through the body (not just the mind), and what happens when we offer ourselves—and our partners—compassion instead of judgment. Brad shares how practices like Hakomi therapy, mindfulness, and even simple breath awareness can help us release inherited emotional “sludge” and build resilience from the inside out.
Whether you’re navigating your own relationship dynamics, raising emotionally intelligent kids, or simply curious about how to create more presence and connection in your life, this conversation offers both science and soul.
Together, we explore what it means to integrate—to honor the full spectrum of who we are—so that healing the masculine becomes part of healing all of us. 💛
Listen now to discover:
✨ What “healing the masculine” really means and how it impacts your relationships
✨ The link between emotional regulation, nervous system health, and longevity
✨ Simple practices to help you pause reactivity and return to grounded presence
✨ How to support the men you love in reconnecting to their emotional selves
“I realized I don’t have to match someone else’s emotional storm. I can hold the line with love and let them move through it —that’s real strength.” –Dr. Brad Jacobs
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00:30 Introduction to Emotional Responses
02:16 Introduction to Precision Medicine
04:49 Martial Arts and Health Perspectives
08:34 Managing Emotions and Agency
11:15 Personal Stories of Anger and Control
13:44 Transitioning from Reactivity to Stability
17:40 Inviting Honest Feedback
22:29 Understanding Emotional Regulation
26:53 The Role of Past Experiences in Healing
28:19 Hokomi Psychotherapy Explained
30:48 Transformation Through Peak Experiences
44:10 Supporting Partners in Personal Growth
Links and Resources:
Blue Wave Medicine
Institute for the Future
The Hakomi Institute
Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love, Gottman
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| 0:00.0 | I came to the place of being able to say, okay, this is her emotional response. |
| 0:05.0 | I don't have to be, I don't have to match it. |
| 0:07.0 | She slammed the doors repeatedly, yell at me, right? |
| 0:09.0 | There's all this energy coming out. |
| 0:11.0 | And like, you know, I'm doing similar behavior like, that's not a recipe for success. |
| 0:15.0 | Hi, I'm so excited to introduce you to today's guest. |
| 0:20.0 | His name is Dr. Brad Jacobs. And when I read |
| 0:24.2 | about what he specializes in, when I watched his TED Talk, which will link in the show notes, |
| 0:30.1 | I was like, I need to talk to this man about my daddy issues because he's an incredible precision medicine doctor. He has a really cool |
| 0:42.1 | clinic in Sausalito, California called Blue Wave. And he is integrative and combines the best |
| 0:50.6 | of Western, Eastern, emotions, all sorts of things. And he did this great TED Talk |
| 0:57.7 | about toxic masculinity and really coming into balance as an integrated, emotionally |
| 1:05.0 | intelligent man. And so we got into so many questions about fathers and daughters and then about |
| 1:16.2 | men and women in marriage or long-term partnership. And I was just really honest about some of my |
| 1:23.8 | own hang-ups with my dad, some of my own hang hangups with my husband. And I kind of just like let |
| 1:29.0 | Brad just stand in and help me out with some of those things. So he also talks a lot about |
| 1:36.0 | longevity and health span. And the way in which we have gone from having, you know, toxic masculinity to sometimes men overcorrecting |
| 1:48.5 | and becoming what I referred to as floppy energetically. And why neither of those states |
| 1:56.1 | are actually helping you out as a man in terms of your health spam. Now, knowing that the vast |
| 2:02.8 | majority of our listeners are women, I framed my questions knowing that, knowing that it is likely |
| 2:10.4 | that you will be passing along some of this wisdom to the men you love in your life. But if you |
| 2:16.7 | are a man listening, welcome. I'm so happy you're here |
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