You're listening to On Attachment, a place to learn about how attachment shapes the way we experience relationships

and where you'll gain the guidance, knowledge and practical tools to overcome insecurity and build healthy, thriving relationships.

I'm your host, relationship coach Stephanie Rigg,

and I'm really glad you're here.

Hey, everybody, welcome back to another episode of On Attachment.

In today's episode, we're talking all about building a healthy relationship with yourself,

and more specifically, what some of the pillars of a healthy relationship to self are now i've spoken many times on the

podcast and elsewhere if you've been following my work for a while about this idea of self-love

that is touted in a lot of personal development, content and circles

and how, for me at least, personally, that kind of content has never really resonated.

I think at various times in my life, I've tried to pretend that it resonates

and I've gotten kind of anthemic about self-love and those nice little quotes and

snippets that we might see.

But it's never really resonated with me on a deep level because, let's face it, self-love,

particularly if you treat that as a destination that you're

meant to reach, you know, a feeling that you're just meant to have. I think for a lot of us who've

struggled with various forms and expressions of insecurity or low self-esteem, just a wobbly kind of relationship with yourself and with

others, feeling like self-love is the destination that we're all meant to be striving towards

and ultimately reaching. That can feel like a really big mountain to climb. And especially so,

if you've been told the story that self-love is a

prerequisite to you having a healthy relationship or being happy and living a life that you can

be proud of and enjoy. I think if you're waiting for all of that to happen until you reach

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