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So I'm so torn about this because I lived the locustity as a teen, you know, Margie, I saved myself to marriage, Margie and I are faithful to each other.

And we all know about STIs and TN wanted teenage pregnancy and assault and like all the reasons why it's probably there's probably a lot of good to the church encouraging youth to wait or encouraging you to do their best to wait.

And so I'm torn because I, there's something that's so beautiful and I lived it of being that Mormon kid that's being righteous and reading the scriptures and serving and going to seminary and saying your prayers and doing good and just dedicating your life to purity or goodness or truth.

And so I'm so torn because I don't love the collateral damage of all the youth that suffer and even get depression or anxiety or suicidality over not being able to live up.

And yet when I hear you talk about turning around and becoming a righteous youth, I'm inspired by that. Like I'm like that's one of the best parts about Mormonism is they can pump out kids like you became.

Like I feel like I, I was for so many years. Do you feel mixed or ambivalent about that or not?

I do. I feel very conflicted because you know, I again, my experiences having sex as a teenager were not positive.

They weren't.

No, they weren't. And you know, I had why not why weren't they positive?

I was like, I'm a young boy that I that we both lost average and it was like one or two times and it was fine. There wasn't.

But I started dating a boy who's three years older than me after that, who I also was intimate with.

And he was very much selfish in in the sexual activities very much made me feel very uncomfortable.

And I made a do things I was not ready to do or felt comfortable doing.

And I very much wish that I had not been intimate with him.

You know, comparing that now to what it's like to be with someone who you're committed to and who you're going to really fight to make things work.

And if you don't perform well, it's not going to change how you feel about each other.

There's a whole different feeling that that goes into that level of intimacy that you know has been so much better for me.

So I feel you know, like I want my kids as best as they can to wait.

The thing I would change is the connection to your standing before God.

Let's talk about all the benefits of waiting till marriage.

Let's talk about some of the harms that happen with premarital sex.

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