You're listening to On Attachment, a place to learn about how attachment shapes the way we experience relationships and where you'll gain the guidance, knowledge and practical tools to overcome insecurity and build healthy, thriving relationships.

I'm your host, relationship coach Stephanie Rigg,

and I'm really glad you're here. Hey, everybody, welcome back to another episode of On Attachment.

In today's episode, we are talking all about comparison and how we can stop comparing

ourselves to others.

So I think that this is a topic that although it was inspired by a question I received on

Instagram, it's so universal and so relatable for, I think, all of us, whether this is

something that you really, really struggle with, or maybe you just experience

a regular human amount, as we'll come to shortly. I do think that this is something that we're

all going to encounter at various points in our life, this tendency to compare, to look over our

shoulder, to see what other people are doing, and to see where we stack up

relative to that, I do think that it's a very natural tendency, but I also think that some of

us definitely go down that vortex more than others and can get really stuck there.

And particularly if you're someone who struggles with unworthiness or insecurity, anxiety, I think these can all go hand in hand.

And not only does that impact our relationship with ourselves, you know, our self-confidence,

our self-esteem, but it can really bleed into our relationships with others.

Again, as we'll come to talk about, I think that there's a lot of overlap,

if you were to do a Venn diagram of people who struggle with comparison and low self-worth,

with people who struggle with anxious attachment, who struggle with jealousy, who struggle with

fear of abandonment, all of these things. I think that might not be so obvious in their relationship to each other.

When we start to dig a little deeper, we can see how there's lots of tendrils and webs linking

them all together. So I'm going to be talking about that today. Why some of us struggle with

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