This is Hello Freedom and I'm your host Terry Cole.

For almost two decades I've been a licensed psychotherapist and transformation coach, and on this show I will bring you simple strategies based on practical psychology, inspiring expert interviews, and my own insights and observations

from my time on the front lines of the fascinating worlds of entertainment,

empowerment, and mental health.

Now let's get going with today's episode. I want to start this episode with a question. If I asked you, who do you think

has the deepest impact on your ability to love yourself from the earliest age of your life.

Who would you say?

If you said your mother or your primary caregiver, you are correct. In this episode we're going to be covering

what happens when you have a mean or unloving mother? How does that impact your ability to love yourself and to have meaningful long-lasting

relationships with other people? My name is Terry Cole. I'm a licensed psychotherapist,

a relationship expert, founder of Boundary Boot camp, and the upcoming Real Love Revolution Challenge.

So, let's get to it. First of all, people, especially women who have unloving or mean mothers, rejecting mothers.

It's an incredibly isolating experience because nobody wants to talk about it.

If you bring this up with people who don't have an unloving mother,

they say the dumbest things, they say the most judgmental things. You only have one mother, you should, you know, love her, she loves you.

No idea, having no clue as to what your situation may be and how painful it is.

So a lot of the times what I found in my psychotherapy practice is that

women just won't talk about it or they'll just go along and say,

yeah, it's great, it's fine, but never actually reveal the truth about it. So the first thing, because the first thing I want to talk about is what is the impact it has on you if you have

a rejecting a mean or an unloving mother and then what are steps that you can take I'm going to give you

a little cheat sheet with some steps that you can take to get on this path of

healing and hey maybe you're already on the path and that's great so my steps will just be

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