Welcome to UnFuck Your Brain. The only podcast that teaches you how to use psychology, feminism, and coaching to rewire your brain

and get what you want in life.

And now here's your host, Harvard Law School grad, Feminist Rockstar, and Master Coach,

Kara Loyenthyle.

Hello my chickens, how are you? I am great. I just got back from

weekend upstate actually which is really nice and then this evening I actually just had a long conversation

with an old friend of mine, and we were laughing

because we've both been through a lot this year

and we were joking that we were tired of growing and could we just get like a hall pass,

you know, and spend a while not having to grow, but we were laughing about it because the truth is,

we've both made the kinds of life decisions and risks and choices that entail moving towards growth and what can look like disruption and dissolution in order to experience that discomfort of transformation

and change.

And I think that that's really what this thought work journey is truly all about,

what every kind of higher level experience in life is about.

Like you guys know I'm a happy heatenist in some respects, so I'm not saying that our more

primitive desires aren't worthy or valuable or fun, but in a lot of fundamental ways

we're wired to see comfort and pleasure and what is familiar. And I think that all of this

self-development work and thought work and coaching is all about becoming the kind of person who moves towards discomfort and towards growth and towards the unfamiliar which is challenging and hard.

It's such a paradox that being miserable can actually be

deeply comfortable and familiar for some of us.

And the emotions we most think we want to get away. comfortable and familiar for some of us.

And the emotions we most think we want to get away from,

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