What I would do is try to get a little bit of space so you can have some perspective away from it.

It's amazing what a couple hours, a couple days, a couple weeks will do to this fighter flight response that we all have.

If you step away from it, you get some perspective and look at this thing from a little bit higher view and go like, oh my gosh, maybe if I did this instead, it really helped the situation.

It's not necessarily what I thought it was.

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Hello and welcome back to yet another episode of Chasing Excellence. How are you Ben?

Good. Thanks Pat. Today we're going to, as always, focus on me really good questions.

I try to figure out or I try to see or spot some patterns or some common themes or some things that people are asking in different ways about different things and see if you and I can maybe have a broader conversation about those things as opposed to fitting them into another two-minute drill or something like that.

This is going to be one of those cases. I've been seeing a lot of questions lately.

They're specific or at least I saw them because they're specific to folks asking roughly the question of, I've been going to this gym that at least at one point I really love, but some things have changed, maybe some people changed.

Now I don't know if this place is the right place for me, if I should stick it out, if I should try another gym, if I should do another thing.

I want to talk to you a little bit about the specifics of that and how maybe you would advise people evaluate their gym or the place that they are.

But more on a macro level, I wanted to talk to you about this idea of evaluating when something like that, when there's a time for a change or a change needs to happen and how you would maybe, how you do it in your own life and how you would talk to other people about.

Walking through the steps necessary to figure out, this thing that I loved at one point maybe, I'm not sure if I'm changing with it or if it's changing in the opposite direction of me.

I wanted to see if we can find something interesting in there. Let's start with this question of a gym specifically.

One of the questions was, I used to love this place, I've recognized that the owner of the gym isn't as good a person as I thought they were.

And now I'm in a position where I love a lot of the people there, I love what happens there, but now I'm kind of like, I don't know if I can keep going there or if I should keep going there.

Where would you begin that conversation with an individual thinking about, is this the right place for me anymore?

What are the metrics you'd be looking for? What are the questions you would ask?

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