116 SelfWork (Second Time Around) Do You Have Perfectly Hidden or High Functioning Depression?
The SelfWork Podcast
Margaret Robinson Rutherford PhD
4.8 • 1.3K Ratings
🗓️ 7 January 2022
⏱️ 22 minutes
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Summary
Hello and welcome again to SelfWork! We've got one more week until we're back live! But I've chosen some of the most popular episodes to listen to a second time around! And of course, today's episode is one very close to my heart.
What’s the difference, or is there one, between Perfectly Hidden Depression and what’s called high-functioning depression? I’m particularly motivated – in fact very sadly motivated – to talk about it because of an email I received this week from a woman whose husband killed himself. He was in his early 40’s. And no one could believe it. He had a perfect-looking life. Children he loved, a career he felt excited about, friends and family that loved him. Yet he couldn’t communicate his darker emotions, emotions that would lead him to suicide. We’ll talk about the difference – and why that difference matters. In fact, why that difference has to be understood.
The listener email will feature the woman who wrote me about the sudden suicide of her husband, and I’ll answer her questions concerning where to go from where she is.
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Articles on high-functioning depression:
Author and food writer David “Avocado” Wolfe
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Counselor Annie Wright on The Mighty.
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| 0:00.0 | This is Selfwork, and I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford. |
| 0:14.1 | At Selfwork, we'll discuss psychological and emotional issues common in today's world |
| 0:19.0 | and what to do about them. |
| 0:20.4 | I'm Dr. Margaret, and Selfwork is a podcast dedicated to you taking just a few minutes today |
| 0:26.2 | for your own Selfwork. |
| 0:29.8 | Hello, and welcome to Selfwork. |
| 0:31.8 | I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford. |
| 0:33.1 | I'm a clinical psychologist. |
| 0:34.8 | I've lived and worked in fave Arkansas for almost 30 years, and I started Selfwork five |
| 0:40.7 | years ago in order to extend the walls of my practice to those of you who might already |
| 0:45.3 | be very interested in psychological emotional issues. |
| 0:48.6 | Maybe you're in therapy as well, but we enjoy another perspective. |
| 0:52.0 | To the group of you who might just been diagnosed with something and you're looking for answers |
| 0:56.1 | or you're having a relationship issue that you just can't seem to settle or find a |
| 1:01.5 | way through, but also to a third group of you, to those of you who might sit around |
| 1:06.6 | until your friends are that therapy stuff that's for the birds, I'd never do it, but you're |
| 1:11.8 | curious enough or sadly unhappy enough to want to listen to Selfwork. |
| 1:17.2 | So welcome to all of you. |
| 1:20.2 | We've got one more week and to Rebecca Live, but I've chosen some of my most popular episodes |
| 1:25.1 | to listen to a second time around, and of course today's episode is one very, very close |
| 1:30.2 | to my heart. |
| 1:31.8 | What's the difference, or is there one, between perfectly hidden depression and what's |
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