Self-awareness is a fruit of other awareness.

We become aware of ourselves by letting really good eyeballs take a look and other people

on the other side of us talk about their

experience with me and what they see, and we've got to assimilate and accommodate that data.

That's Dr. Henry Cloud. He's a clinical psychologist, leadership expert, and New York Times bestselling author of Boundaries and other fantastic books.

He's been named as one of the top 25 most influential leaders in personal growth and development by Success Magazine.

And today, he'll share some wisdom from his latest book, Your Desired Future, The Five Essential Steps, That you where you want to go. So you'll learn one, why the human body is our best

model for cheating results. Two, the biggest power move of high performers. And three, two

questions to go above your natural wiring. And if you'd like to receive a quick summary write-up

of the actionable wisdom that Dr. Henry Cloud shares, I recommend

you sign up for the free Gold Nugget email newsletter, which you can find on over at awesome

at your job.com. I'm Pete McItis. This is How to Be Awesome at Your Job. And now, here's Henry.

Henry, welcome. Good to be here, Pete.

Well, I'm excited to be chatting with you.

I love your book boundaries, and we're talking about your latest, your desired future.

Could you kick us off by sharing perhaps one of your most intriguing, fascinating, counterintuitive discoveries you've made about this tricky gap between

intention and achievement?

Well, you know, it's something that we all experience and something that we notice in others

who, whenever we're at one place, it may be in your career and it may be in your life,

and it may be even in a relationship.

Here's where we are, and we want to be in your life and it may be even in a relationship. Here's where we are.

And we want to be in a desired future different place, right?

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