This is Hello Freedom and I'm your host Terry Cole.

For almost two decades I've been a licensed psychotherapist and transformation coach, and on this show I will bring you simple strategies based on practical psychology, inspiring expert interviews, and my own insights and observations

from my time on the front lines of the fascinating worlds of entertainment,

empowerment, and mental health.

Now let's get going with today's episode. Well, hello and welcome to Hello Freedom. I am your host Terry Cole and I am

super excited and grateful that you decided to spend a little bit of time with me here today.

So if you've noticed I've been talking a lot about boundaries because I'm really, really amped

about teaching all of you how to have healthy and flexible boundaries.

I feel like so much of the time with boundaries people think that drawing a

boundary means having a confrontation or it means building

walls instead of building bridges and that's none of that is actually true. When you think about what boundaries do for you, they actually

help you be your true self with the people that you love. So when you don't draw effective boundaries, so let's get clear

what is drawing an effective boundary? What does this mean? This means that you

readily tell the people in your life what is okay with you and what is not okay with you.

That's the simplest term. There are other more complicated boundaries, but what we're

really talking about is when your selfish friend who always picks the restaurant that's

near her friggin apartment all the way out in Brooklyn somewhere that you say hey

no every other time you've got to come to the East Village or wherever it is that you live,

rather than, because what ends up happening, like think about this, when you don't draw boundaries,

when you don't tell the truth, right, When you don't tell someone how you feel.

Now those feelings don't go away, you're still annoyed, upset, hurt, so what

then do you do with those feelings?

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