Welcome to UnFuck Your Brain. The only podcast that teaches you how to use psychology, feminism, and coaching to rewire your brain

and get what you want in life.

And now here's your host, Harvard Law School grad, Feminist Rockstar, and Master Coach,

Kara Loyenthyle.

Hello, my chickens.

It is fully January now.

It is 2018. We are all kind of coming off that holiday high or

holiday low and getting back into the groove of things. So today I want to talk about stress. When you are off work in particular and kind of out of your normal life,

you may have emotional stress from dealing with family or the holidays, but you're kind of out of your daily grind.

Then when you get back to the daily grind, that kind of daily grind stress starts to come up again.

So today I want to talk to you a little bit about what stress is and why it isn't necessary. If I ask you

right now if stress is necessary you'd probably say no and in fact you'd say that

you're dying to get rid of yours right all of my clients sign up with me because they want to be

less stressed in one way or another and one area of their life or another. But when it comes down to

it and we start looking at their thoughts, it turns out that they do subconsciously think that stress is serving them.

I'm seeing this right now with my un-Fuck-Your-brain students.

We just sort of got started in the last couple of weeks and we've been working on noticing

when they are judging themselves.

And what many of them are discovering is that they have been believing that shame and

guilt and stress are actually positive and necessary.

So today I'm going to show you the ways in which you may secretly believe that stress is necessary

and a good thing.

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