Welcome to Unfuck Your Brain. The only podcast that teaches you how to use psychology, feminism

and coaching to rewire your brain and get what you want in life. And now here's your

host, Harvard Law School grad, feminist rock star, and master coach, Carla Lohanthile.

Hello my chickens. It is fully January now. It is 2018. We are all kind of coming

off that holiday high or holiday low and getting back into the groove of things. So

today I want to talk about stress. When you are off work in particular and kind of

out of your normal life, you may have emotional stress from dealing with family

or the holidays, but you're kind of out of your daily grind. Then when you get back

to the daily grind, that kind of daily grind stress starts to come up again. So today

I want to talk to you a little bit about what stress is and why it isn't necessary. If I

asked you right now if stress is necessary, you'd probably say no. And in fact, you'd

say that you're dying to get rid of yours, right? All of my clients sign up with me because

they want to be less stressed, right? In one way or another and one area of their life

or another. But when it comes down to it and we start looking at their thoughts, it turns

out that they do subconsciously think that stress is serving them. I'm seeing this right now with

my unfuck your brain students. We just have sort of got started in the last couple of weeks and we've

been working on noticing when they are judging themselves. And what many of them are discovering

is that they have been believing that shame and guilt and stress are actually positive and

necessary. So today I'm going to show you the ways in which you may secretly believe that stress

is necessary and a good thing. And I'm going to teach you why it absolutely is not.

So for those of you who are newer to the podcast, let's review what stress is first and what

creates it. You have to understand what stress is before you understand why it's counterproductive.

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