Welcome to Unfuck Your Brain. The only podcast that teaches you how to use psychology, feminism

and coaching to rewire your brain and get what you want in life. And now here's your

host, Harvard Law School grad, feminist rock star, and master coach, Carla Lohanthile.

Hello my chickens. As you can probably hear, I am still suffering from this

head cold. I think one day, like I don't know, 74. That sounds reasonable. I'm

part of my brain is telling me that I will actually never speak clearly again.

So hopefully that's not true. But it is a good example of what I'm going to talk

about today, which is negativity bias. That's what I want to teach you about today.

So once my clients learn how to notice their thoughts and become aware of what

their brain is saying to them, they pretty much all have the same question, which is why

the fuck am I like this? Right? So what they're noticing is that for every positive thought

they have, they will have four to five negative thoughts at the same time or right afterwards.

It seems to them that their brain wants to be negative, right? And you guys have probably

experienced this one because you have a lot of negative thoughts. But two, if you ever

think about a time where somebody gave you positive feedback and there was one thing

for you to work on, and that's the thing you remember is the thing to work on, right?

Or you go on a date and there is a lot of signals that the person likes you and then

there's one thing that's maybe ambiguous and your brain fixates on that one thing, right?

It looks for the negative. And I think often when my clients start paying attention and

seeing how negative their brain is, they worry that this means there's something wrong

with them. But the truth is it's completely normal for them and for you and for me, everyone,

everyone's brain is wired with a bias towards negativity because that bias helped us to survive.

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