Well, we got an email in Matthew, which was from a man.

27 in Denmark and he says, Hi, if we can do all these things right and wrong in

dating, which you address in your advice, how can it be true to say that the

right person will also choose you? I was recently dumped by a girl I dated for

six weeks and I have been torturing myself ever since trying to figure out if I

lost out on her because I failed to implement the advice you give on dating and

flirting. Thank you so much for your wonderful work. What a great question. Do we

know his name or he didn't offer his name or doesn't want to? His name is in

the subject line but not in the email so I'm gonna see him anonymous. I feel

that gets I feel that gets to the crux of if there's fate or choice in love. I

believe that this is a paradox to be managed. That we do have a choice over how

we act, how we behave, but that we also and and of course what that does is it

invites the kind of self-loathing and guilt and anxiety that comes from

thinking we blew it. We could have done something different and we blew it. Had

we done something different, we would have had still had that person now. But then

of course someone will watch me in another video and say that person if they

didn't choose you then then they weren't for you. Right. And people will say well

how do you manage those two ideas? Because if I had have done something different

you're your entire your entire advice and what you do is based on this idea

that we can change the results we're getting based on changes in our

behavior. And if there's a right person for me then I can't blow it with them

right? Like how can I blow it if they're the right person and we match then you

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