Hello everyone, welcome to the Love Like podcast. I am Stephen Hussie and we are filled with

Ebullion Joy to be with you today. Matt, I've got an interesting little question to ask you today

because I don't know what your take is going to be on it and I am intrigued, sir. And having

worked with you for 10 years, usually I have some idea what your take will be. So this question is from

someone who goes by anti-drastic element and she says, do you ever feel like the more work on yourself

you do and the more you grow, the less easy it is for you to be attracted to someone.

Interesting question. Like if you're high value in that parlance, if you feel like man, I'm doing

great, I'm rocking and rolling, is there a smaller pull for you to choose from of people who are eligible?

In one sense, as your relationship with yourself improves, your standards improve for how you would

like or even expect to be treated by someone, what you would choose to put up with. So to that extent,

as you grow and evolve, so do your standards and the energy that you want for the people that you

spend time with. So you could say that you will inevitably distance yourself from the kinds of

people that don't bring you that energy or cannot relate to your standard for the way that you would

like to live your life. But here's the part I think a lot of people miss. To me,

a one of the truest signs of growth is an increased sense of empathy and compassion.

First, towards yourself, because as we grow, we hopefully develop a stronger, more beautiful

relationship with ourselves that is founded on a greater degree of forgiveness and self-love,

self-compassion, the ability to understand our mistakes and to give ourselves a shot at improving

them without writing ourselves off. And a forgiveness without past. And it's pretty much impossible to do

that without also taking a different view on other human beings. Our harshness and our judgment

towards other human beings is often a direct reflection of the ways that we are not letting

ourselves off the hook in life. If we're mean to other people about things that they get wrong or

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