#106: When They Break Up With You Because You ‘Deserve Better’
Black Girls Heal
Shena Lashey
4.8 • 1.8K Ratings
🗓️ 22 June 2021
⏱️ 25 minutes
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Summary
Something I see a lot with the women that I serve is this stressful and conflicting scenario of hearing the phrase “you deserve someone better”. This is a phrase that is commonly used when someone, particularly a romantic partner, seeks to cut ties with us.
In today’s episode, I’m sharing helpful and encouraging advice about finding the message within that particular message. I share 3 messages that you should know when you hear phrases such as “you deserve someone better,” or “it’s not you, it’s me”. I discuss why accepting this phrase stems from a low sense of self-worth, and a one-sided negotiation that only happens within yourself.
It can be easy to personalize and internalize this message. And my hopes with today’s episode is that I provide a new perspective to this roller coaster of a scenario. This is a common situation many of us find ourselves in at one point or another. So listen to this episode as many times as you need, share it with a friend or family member, and take the messages that resonate with you.
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| 0:00.0 | My, my job is to somehow make them curious enough or persuade them by hook-a-cruple to get |
| 0:14.4 | more aware of themselves and where they came from and what they are into and what is already there |
| 0:19.9 | is just to bring it out. This is what compels me to compel them and I will do it by whatever means |
| 0:27.3 | to them. Welcome to the Black Girl's Hill podcast where we talk about healing or intimacy |
| 0:33.3 | disorders and resolve trauma and building a healthy relationship with first ourselves and then |
| 0:38.6 | others. Every episode we will talk about advice you can apply today to break unhealthy patterns |
| 0:44.6 | and grow your self-worth. I'm Shrinella Shea, love addition coach and trauma specialist. Let's begin. |
| 0:51.5 | Hello, hello and welcome to the latest episode of Black Girl's Hill. This is the place where I |
| 0:59.7 | help black women heal from the symptoms of love addiction, love avoidance and love deprivation |
| 1:05.7 | to make way for a healthy love in their life. And healthy love is of course relationships with |
| 1:12.0 | other people be a romantic family or friendships but most importantly it is your relationship with |
| 1:18.3 | yourself is how you see yourself is how you talk to yourself is how you love yourself because that |
| 1:24.0 | is going to be a physical representation of everything that you are able to receive, everything |
| 1:30.2 | that comes to you, everything that you give out as well. Thanks for listening to this week's |
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