I was recently speaking to a woman who said that she'd been seeing a guy for the better

part of the year.

The frustration she was having is that they only saw each other every couple of weeks,

and even then he would cancel a lot to make plans in a different way.

And she always felt like he was the one always cancelling, she was the one always making

the commitment to see him and it was always on his terms.

So she wanted more quality time with him.

Now she was trying to get herself into the right mindset to have a conversation with this

guy.

She came to me but she was so anxious about having the conversation and she said to me,

you know how it is Matthew, everything's all good until you start making waves.

I want everyone out there to notice the linguistic shuffle that happens there where we take

what are really our needs and turn them into making waves.

Because when that woman says making waves, she's really talking about her needs, her need

for some form of stability, her need to have some kind of regular connection and quality

time with the man that she's into and dare I say in love with.

What's up guys, before I continue the video and yes I realize I'm interrupting my own

video with this message.

I just wanted to let you know that the early bird tickets to my final virtual retreat

of this year are on sale now but only until the end of the month.

If you're thinking of coming now is the time because it's a big discount and there's

a couple of extras that we don't normally throw in with the ticket.

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