Welcome back to the Love Life podcast with your favorite two boys, Matthew and Steven.

Matt, I want to bring this email to you today because it's on a big kind of heavy topic,

but I know it's one that so many people out there who are listening and watching.

Many people will relate to it. So this is from, I'm going to, she put her name at the end of the

email, but she signed off anonymous. So I'm going to respect that. So this is from an anonymous

emailer. She says, I've been with my guy for nine years. He's a great guy and he treats me well,

but deathly afraid of commitment. His parents are divorced. I'm okay with not getting married,

but really want a child. I'm 37 and he's 46 so our clock is ticking. We've been on and off because

of the commitment issue, but last year he agreed to have a kid together. Now he's backpedaling because

he says he's getting too old. He's a young looking guy still and just very afraid to dive in. He still

wants to use condoms or pull out. How do I get him to try it? You leave the relationship.

Is what you do next? The PS she adds at the end is I told him I have to start looking elsewhere

if I want to start a family. He knows he does. I think she means he knows he does want something,

but he's just afraid to take the steps forward. Should I start looking elsewhere? I've even

considered in vitro. I really want to build a family, but he is dragging along and it never feels

certain. He's the love of my life, but I really want to be a mother. Please help. She leaves.

And it's guys she's saying he's the love of her life. Yeah.

If it's essential for her to have children to fulfill the blueprint she wants to have in her life,

and that's more important than she leaves because the evidence suggests she can't have both.

This is, look, the answer isn't the same every age. There are age ranges where someone could

say not something, not the same thing because nine years is nine years. Did I hear that right?

She said nine years. So nine years is nine years at any age, right? That's a long time to be with

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