My Matthew Hussey and this is Love Life.

If you've ever felt like you didn't know the right words to say to a man to create attraction and chemistry,

then you can't afford to miss what I have for you at the end of today's episode.

Stay tuned, because I'm going to hand you five phrases that are so simple,

yet so powerful with men, that you're going to be furious at me for not giving this to you years ago.

I have a little bit of a bone to pick with the human race today, and that's that as a society,

we don't give more compliments. There's a lot of talk about getting compliments,

and what, you know what, I just wish people would compliment this and compliment that,

and I don't know, I just don't feel great about myself. I feel a little insecure about certain parts of me,

and I don't know, I just feel like people are thinking of this when they look at me.

Instead of all of that self-reflection all the time, one of the best things we can do is pay

other people compliments. When you walk around and you're able to get out of your head,

which is by the way what it requires to compliment someone else, you have to get out of your own head,

all of a sudden you'll feel better. It's a bit like when you do charity for someone else. You

know, people say, well, what's the best way to get out of a depression, or what's the best way to get

over a breakup? When you're in a really depressed state, one of the best things you can do is actually

find a way to go give. How can I go and focus on someone else and what they need? Because when I'm

focused on what someone else needs, I'm not focused on what I need in that moment. Here's one of the

other big benefits. When you pay someone a compliment today, you're also going to help yourself by how

likable you become. The person who goes out with that giving attitude of, you know what, my job right

now in this room is to make other people feel good. That then becomes this reflected glow that comes

back at you. Let me give you an example. I'll prove it to you. If I said to you, if we were a party

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