027: Who are you? Self-validation & Projection
The Adult Chair Podcast with Michelle Chalfant
Michelle Chalfant
4.9 • 1.6K Ratings
🗓️ 25 November 2015
⏱️ 16 minutes
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Summary
When we look outside of ourselves for validation for who we are, we become dependent on others for our sense of self and happiness. When we learn to self-validate, we become internally strong in knowing who we are. We easily access our faults, with little to no effort. When asked what's good about us or what our positive strengths are, we scramble and have to stretch our minds to muster up even one positive about ourselves. In this podcast Michelle touches on projection, self esteem and the power of self validation and how it can build a solid foundation for our lives.
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| 0:00.0 | Hello everybody and welcome to the adult chair on rash pixel |
| 0:08.0 | and I am not here with Michelle Schalfant. No, because of the crazy holiday schedule and our travel |
| 0:17.4 | Michelle and I are ships in the night, but she does send in this report from the |
| 0:22.0 | field. |
| 0:22.8 | Today, she's got a great story about a recent session |
| 0:26.0 | she had telling the story of projection and self-validation. |
| 0:29.7 | And it is a wonderful bit we're going to share with you shortly. First, head over to the |
| 0:35.4 | adult chair.com to learn more about the show. |
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| 0:41.0 | podcast app of choice with a quick search for the adult chair. Of course you can join the conversation this on 3.3813. We would love to get your voice on this show. And now Michelle |
| 0:55.9 | Shelfant from the field. She is with her family celebrating U.S. |
| 0:59.8 | Thanksgiving and she sends in this report on behalf of both of us. We hope you have a wonderful |
| 1:07.2 | holiday break. So I had this client today who came in and was talking to me about a guy that she liked and that she's not quite |
| 1:17.2 | sure if he likes her and she was letting me know that she was annoyed with him because of all of the kudos that he needs and all |
| 1:28.5 | of the validation that he needs and it became apparent to me and obvious that it wasn't the guy that was needing the |
| 1:39.8 | kudos and the validation for who he was, but she was, my client was projecting what she |
| 1:48.6 | needed on him, which we do. |
| 1:51.8 | We are beings, human beings that have all kinds of stories inside of us and |
| 2:01.0 | beliefs and thoughts that get projected out on other people and into our environment, into the world. |
| 2:08.0 | And it takes a lot of self-awareness to be able to catch when we are projecting what we need within ourselves |
| 2:20.4 | on other people. |
| 2:21.4 | So this is why I think most of us need some kind of therapist or coach or |
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