012 SelfWork (Second Time Around): How to Become An Emotional Grownup
The SelfWork Podcast
Margaret Robinson Rutherford PhD
4.8 • 1.3K Ratings
🗓️ 6 November 2020
⏱️ 25 minutes
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Summary
I thought today might be a great day to post an episode about acting maturely, as we in the US have gone through a very divisive election and hopefully will be trying to mend and heal and carry on. I'll be back next week and can't wait to fill you in on what's been happening!
This is a very early episode... but the message is one that's a thread throughout my clinical work with patients - and now, you.
Feeling mature, decisive, not being reactive but responsive, having insight into our own behavior and changing that behavior when it’s appropriate – when we can do these things, we are acting in our adult selves. So much of how or how long that takes depends on what happened to us as kids. In this episode, sponsored by BetterHelp, we'll talk about your childhood strategies – the ways you unconsciously coped with whatever was present in your family. If you’re still using the same guide or strategy, you might be stuck, or not actually dealing with life as it is now. We'll define not only different strategies, but how and why you came up with them. What are clues that you’re still using your childhood strategy, and how you can change it — if it’s not working for you now?
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My new book entitled Perfectly Hidden Depression has arrived and you can order here! Its message is specifically for those with a struggle with strong perfectionism which acts to mask underlying emotional pain. But the many self-help techniques described can be used by everyone who chooses to begin to address emotions long hidden away that are clouding and sabotaging your current life.
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| 0:00.0 | This is self-work and I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford. |
| 0:13.0 | At self-work we'll discuss psychological and emotional issues common in today's world and what to do about them. |
| 0:20.0 | I'm Dr. Margaret and self-work is a podcast dedicated to you taking just a few minutes today for your own self-work |
| 0:29.3 | Hello and welcome or welcome back to self-work. I'm Dr. Margaret Rutherford, a clinical |
| 0:34.7 | psychologist out of Fayetteville, Arkansas, and the team and I are on a little vacation |
| 0:39.4 | until November the 13th when we'll bring you again an original self-work |
| 0:45.2 | podcast. But I went through the first 100 podcast and picked either ones that were |
| 0:50.8 | some of my own personal favorites or ones that are really very how-to. |
| 0:56.4 | And we'll actually bring you two of them a week. |
| 0:58.7 | Always with the idea of reaching out to those of you who are already comfortable with psychological and emotional issues, |
| 1:04.8 | perhaps you're in therapy, to those of you who have just been diagnosed with something and you're |
| 1:08.8 | looking for answers, or for those of you who wouldn't darken the door of a therapist's office, |
| 1:14.0 | but you might just be curious enough to listen to a podcast like Self-Works. |
| 1:19.0 | So here's the rundown. |
| 1:21.0 | The first will be, Tina Turner takes a seat and that's all about me, actually I'm |
| 1:26.4 | Tina Turner, although that's a little bit hard to believe, but it's all about handling aging gracefully. |
| 1:34.0 | The next is how to learn from a mistake. |
| 1:37.0 | And there's some very basic tips I give you there. |
| 1:40.0 | Then another how-to, the day before Halloween three very practical exercises to |
| 1:47.2 | increase your self-esteem. If you've been listening to self-work for a while you |
| 1:52.2 | know I'm all about what you can do about it and |
| 1:54.4 | so this gets very specific. On the anniversary of perfectly hidden |
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