Acceptance is powered. What if the thing that you keep resisting is actually the key to your growth for years? I did not understand the concept that thoughts are not facts, and I did not understand the concept that we all have negative emotions. And so I would go around having tons of negative emotions, feeling super anxious and super stressed. This is my early 20s. And I remember thinking all the time, I was like, like, if somebody knew what was in my head, I would not get a boyfriend, I'm never going to be married. My friends would be like, you're

fucking crazy bitch. I remember thinking those things all the time. And then I remember I got married, you know, lucky him. Eventually one day, I start talking to him and I'm like, I just don't want to tell you all the crazy thoughts I have in the head. He was like, why? And I was like, I mean, like,

what if you think I'm crazy? And I remember that moment. My husband was like, so what? That led me

to this tool, which is the so what? I was like, oh, I like that. What do you mean? So what? He's like, so what? Still married you. It's still cute. I don't think it'll change much. And I was just like, oh, wow. And it diffused so much of my emotion around the situation that all of a sudden I started spewing everything at him. I was like, I think this and this and this. And he was like, hmm, checks out. And then I was like, what if, what if I could do that for myself? And so now what I learned is that every time I have a thought that feels scary, feels big, feels gross, feels negative, then I have to say to myself, so what? So what? You got a fucked up thought. So what? That you think that. You are a tiny speck on this giant universe. And that thought will go away as fast as a game. So I want you to try this mental reframe. Think of active acceptance as a tool in your toolbox. Active acceptance is just saying,

so what? You're like, what if this happened? Then my boyfriend breaks up with me and then this happens

then, blah, blah, blah. So what? Half of being stuck comes from resisting reality. It comes from

resisting your thoughts, resisting the negative feelings. So acceptance means carrying the

circumstances, the feelings, the thoughts with you rather than

fighting them. Now what you will find is that this does not mean that you're giving up. It means

that you move forward with reality, not against it. And this takes so much of the power out

of a situation, a thought, or a feeling. Now this is how you can actually put it into practice.

Right now I'm going to ask you this. What in your life right now is unfair? What is unfair? Maybe you have a bad boss or a really heavy workload with your job or bad customer review. Next to it, right? So what? I can carry this. Then ask yourself this. What is one productive action that you can take while being uncomfortable holding

that thought or circumstance? Because here's the thing. The price of your dreams tomorrow is the

discomfort of accepting it today. Which brings us to our final and most important truth. You need to

audit your beliefs. There's a reason that we call them your beliefs, not facts, not the universal beliefs.

We know that our beliefs shape our reality.

And what's crazy is that our beliefs might be completely fucking wrong and crazy.

Right?

We've identified this.

One of the biggest beliefs that I've had to unlearn is that fear means something's dangerous.

I used to have so many feelings of fear of anxiety,

and they would feel paralyzing almost, like literally like sweaty hands. I'd feel like my mouth is foaming, not foaming, but I'm losing like spit in my mouth. Foming would be tough. That'd be a seizure. You should go to the doctor view and that happens to you. But I would have, you know, no spit in my mouth, like I'm so nervous about something. And I used to think when I was younger that that meant that

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