Your Nervous System Is Choosing Your Relationships Part 2: Healing the Survival Responses
This Changes Everything with Sarah Rice
Sarah Rice - Wave Podcast Network
4.6 • 884 Ratings
🗓️ 21 May 2026
⏱️ 35 minutes
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Summary
In part two of this series, Sarah explores what healing actually looks like after years of living in fight, flight, freeze, or fawn mode. Why can calm feel uncomfortable? What does a regulated nervous system actually feel like? And how do you stop treating emotional chaos like chemistry? This episode breaks down the biological opposites of survival mode: rest, digest, connect, and create. Sarah also discusses boundaries, co-regulation, people pleasing, emotional safety, and how healing changes the way we experience love, conflict, and connection. If you’ve ever struggled to relax in relationships, felt emotionally addicted to inconsistency, or wondered why healthy love can feel unfamiliar, this episode is for you.
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Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Hello friends and welcome once again to everybody's favorite therapy theme podcast. I'm your host Sarah and I am back this week to do part two of our talk about the nervous system and relationships. Last week in part one, we talked all about how the nervous system shapes relationships and really how why some people are so addictive and what healthy love feels |
| 0:24.9 | like and why that can sometimes feel really boring. |
| 0:28.2 | And we talked a lot about survival responses like that fight, flight, freeze, and |
| 0:31.9 | how they show up in dating and relationships. |
| 0:34.9 | And here I was thinking it was going to be a one part episode, but we had |
| 0:39.7 | so much to talk about we, you and me, right here, because it really does feel like a one-on-one |
| 0:45.8 | chitchet sometimes, doesn't it? I hope it feels like that with you guys, for you guys. Okay, |
| 0:50.8 | anyways, today we're talking about the healing side of the conversation. |
| 0:57.4 | I feel like it's kind of like when you read those self-help books, which I have a problem with, but that's a story for another day. |
| 1:04.9 | But they'll tell you everything about like, oh, this is what's wrong and this is all the bad stuff. |
| 1:10.7 | And then they're like well good luck out |
| 1:16.0 | there I hate that shit so I think it's really important to not just understand the patterns but |
| 1:23.2 | also like what heck do we do about it because awareness alone is not going to regulate the nervous system, right? |
| 1:29.4 | I always say you can't go to the restaurant, read the menu and expect to be full. |
| 1:34.4 | We can't just know all this stuff about our nervous system and then not apply it, right? |
| 1:40.0 | That's like the eating the food. |
| 1:41.3 | So let's learn what regulation actually looks like so that you can do that in your real life. |
| 1:47.7 | And the goal here is not perfection. |
| 1:51.5 | I think that's a really important thing to point out. |
| 1:53.5 | I think maybe one of the biggest or in the top five misconceptions about the healing process is that people think the goal is to |
| 2:03.5 | never ever be triggered again or to somehow you're going to like go through therapy graduate |
| 2:08.8 | therapy get your like gold star in therapy or whatever which doesn't really exist uh and then |
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