Why You’re Really Exhausted (And It’s Not What You Think): Healing Burnout by Ending Self-betrayal
This Changes Everything with Sarah Rice
Sarah Rice - Wave Podcast Network
4.6 • 884 Ratings
🗓️ 28 May 2026
⏱️ 41 minutes
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Summary
In this powerful episode of This Changes Everything, Sarah sits down with attorney-turned-betrayal recovery coach, TEDx speaker, podcast host, and author Lora Cheadle to explore a provocative idea: what if what we call burnout is actually betrayal?
Building on recent conversations about nervous systems, survival responses, and authenticity, this episode dives into how chronic exhaustion is often a signal of deeper misalignment, not just overwork. Lora Cheadle, author of It’s Not Burnout, It’s Betrayal, breaks down how self-abandonment, people-pleasing, and high-functioning survival patterns disconnect us from our needs, identity, and emotional truth.
Together, Sarah and Lora explore why high achievers often miss the signs of self-betrayal, how the body signals misalignment before the mind catches up, and why authenticity can feel threatening after years of survival mode. They also unpack what real healing looks like: rebuilding self-trust, setting boundaries, and learning to stop abandoning yourself in relationships, work, and identity.
This is a conversation about burnout, yes, but more importantly, it’s about coming home to yourself.
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| 0:00.0 | Hello friends and welcome once again to everybody's favorite therapy theme podcast. |
| 0:04.0 | I'm your host Sarah and over the last few weeks we have been talking all about the nervous system. |
| 0:09.0 | We're talking about survival responses, emotional safety, hypervigilance, all that kind of stuff, over functioning, people pleasing, |
| 0:16.0 | basically all the ways that our bodies adapt when we don't feel safe. |
| 0:27.7 | And as I was preparing for this episode, I thought, this is perfect because I have a wonderful guest and she happens to be an expert in betrayal. |
| 0:34.2 | And she knows that sometimes what we call burnout is actually betrayal. And there's a difference |
| 0:40.6 | between being tired and being emotionally depleted because something violated your trust or |
| 0:45.4 | values or your sense of self. And this is a lot of what we were talking about feeling and |
| 0:50.7 | physiologically experiencing in the last two episodes. I mean, maybe it's a relationship |
| 0:55.8 | where you keep shrinking yourself to keep the peace. Maybe it's a job where you're constantly |
| 1:01.4 | like overgiving and you never feel valued. Maybe it's a family system where you learned that |
| 1:09.6 | your worth came from being useful or productive, but eventually your body |
| 1:15.0 | starts to respond in all those ways that we talk about. And it's not always just stress. It's not |
| 1:22.0 | always just burnout. It can also be misalignment. And today's guest is someone who sits right at the center of all this, knows so much. |
| 1:31.8 | Her name is Laura Cheedle. |
| 1:33.1 | She is an attorney-turned-betrayal recovery coach and a TEDx speaker and also an author of a wonderful book called Burnout. |
| 1:41.4 | Or, no, excuse me, it's called It's Not Burnout, It not burnout it's betrayal and her work focuses all on |
| 1:46.8 | burnout betrayal the nervous system and healing and identity authenticity and basically how to rebuild |
| 1:54.9 | self-trust after years of self-abandonment so today we're going to be talking all about why burnout |
| 2:00.7 | is sometimes betrayal and disguise uh we're going to be talking all about why burnout is sometimes betrayal |
| 2:01.8 | and disguise. We're going to talk about how survival responses disconnect us from ourselves. And we're |
| 2:08.5 | going to talk a lot about why high functioning people often ignore their own needs. And basically |
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