Your Marriage Abuse Cycle Exercise [341]

Flying Free

Natalie Hoffman

Emotional, Narcissism, Christianity, Abuse, Religion & Spirituality, Spiritual, Christian, Self-improvement, Education, Divorce, Marriage

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🗓️ 19 August 2025

⏱️ 24 minutes

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Summary

Have you ever felt like you're starring in a rerun of your own life? Same arguments. Same heartbreak. Same fake flowers and empty promises. It’s called the abuse cycle, my friend.

In this episode, I dive deep into an exercise that one of our Flying Free members shared in the private forum. She mapped out her relationship’s specific abuse cycle, and what she discovered was pretty important.

Nothing changes when nothing changes. Oof. That one landed.

What you’ll learn:

The Three Phases of the Abuse Cycle
What HE Does vs. What YOU Do in each phase, and why it’s crucial to spell it out.
How this member's personalized cycle became her key to awareness, and eventually, empowerment.
The Denial Trap: Why “love doesn’t keep a record of wrongs” is not a permission slip to forget he’s hurting you.
The radical difference between surviving the cycle and disrupting it with intentional action.

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Related Resources:

Check out some other related Flying Free Podcast episodes: “Interrupting the Abuse Cycle” and “How to Change Yourself While Still Stuck in an Emotionally Abusive Marriage.”

Transcript

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0:00.0	Hi, this is Natalie Hoffman of Flying FreeNow.com, and you're listening to the Flying Free Podcast,
0:08.9	a support resource for women of faith looking for hope and healing from hidden emotional and spiritual abuse.
0:18.0	Hey, beautiful butterflies.
0:19.9	Welcome to episode 341 of the Flying Free Podcast. There are three things I want to share with you today from our private community. The first is an amazing exercise that one of our members posted. She created this exercise to help herself see the abuse cycle more clearly in her
0:39.5	own relationship, specifically identifying what she does at each phase of the cycle and what
0:46.6	her husband does at each phase. The insights that she gained were profound. Since she posted it
0:52.9	in our private kaleidoscope forum, where the only people
0:56.3	that get to see at our members, I decided that I wanted to share it with you to make sure that
1:00.4	more people could hear about it. Not everyone is in the kaleidoscope. And with so many valuable
1:05.5	posts that are being shared every day, it's easy for important content to get overlooked,
1:10.6	even by our members. So when
1:12.7	transformative material like the surfaces, I want to make sure that it gets the attention that it
1:17.3	deserves. All right. The second tool is it comes from something that I taught in my recent
1:22.7	flying higher Bible study a few weeks ago. And one of the flying higher members posted her reflections after she
1:29.1	went through that lesson. And her insights are so valuable that I want to share them with you.
1:34.2	The third tool involves lessons learned from a custody evaluation experience. One of our members
1:41.0	had shared her journey through this challenging process, offering practical
1:45.5	tips and valuable insights that I believe are going to be helpful for anybody else facing
1:50.7	similar circumstances.
1:52.5	So let's begin with the first tool.
1:55.8	We're going to get specific with your relationships abuse cycle.
2:00.4	And why don't we just call it that?
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