How to Find Peace When Your Marriage Feels Toxic [342]

Flying Free

Natalie Hoffman

Emotional, Narcissism, Christianity, Abuse, Religion & Spirituality, Spiritual, Christian, Self-improvement, Education, Divorce, Marriage

5 • 1K Ratings

🗓️ 26 August 2025

⏱️ 36 minutes

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Summary

Do you ever feel like you’re drowning in guilt, shame, and Christian “shoulds” while trying to survive a toxic marriage, a brutal divorce, or the aftermath of both? What if I told you that letting go, accepting reality, and loving yourself isn’t just a cliche, but it can actually change everything?

In this episode of Flying Free, I dive into the “Let Go, Accept, and Love” tool (a.k.a. LAL, because who doesn’t love an acronym?). Plus, you’ll hear how one brave mama used these steps in the middle of a soul-crushing custody battle, and she came out stronger, freer, and a whole lot wiser.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

Why believing the actual good news (and not the toxic “dirty worm theology”) matters more than you think.
The three steps of the LAL tool
How one Flying Free member used LAL to survive a painful separation from her child with compassion instead of despair.
The messy, real-life lessons another member learned during her custody evaluation, and why showing humility beats trying to look like “Super Perfect Christian Mom.”
Practical ways to prepare for divorce and custody evaluations without losing your sanity.

Read the full show notes and/or ask Natalie a question here

Related Resources:

Check out the Divorced Christian Woman Podcast, my newest podcast specifically for divorced women rebuilding their lives.
The Mirror Bible is a refreshing Bible translation I highly recommend.
Go follow Gretchen Baskerville’s YouTube channel. Also check out a recent interview I did with her, “Do Marriage Intensives Help to Heal Abusive Marriages?”
Need a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA)? Rhonda Noordyk will help you with financial clarity and advocacy in divorce.

Transcript

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0:00.0	Hi, this is Natalie Hoffman of Flying FreeNow.com, and you're listening to the Flying Free Podcast,
0:08.9	a support resource for women of faith looking for hope and healing from hidden emotional and spiritual abuse.
0:18.1	Welcome to episode 342 of the Flying Free podcast.
0:22.9	Last week, I said that I was going to share three tools taken from things that have been shared or taught within the Flying Free Collidoscope.
0:31.0	But then I started to lose my voice toward the end of talking about the first tool.
0:34.7	I was just getting over a cold.
0:36.4	And I promised that I would share
0:37.9	the other two tools this week. So here we go. In our Bible study, in my flying higher mentorship
0:44.6	group, we have been working through the book of Luke using the Mirror Bible. Now, this translation
0:50.0	is so refreshing. It truly presents the good news of Jesus Christ and it has been a game
0:57.0	changer in my own life and in the lives of the other members who are part of this study,
1:01.5	who have maybe in the past had the Bible weaponized against them. The good news is actually good
1:08.5	news. Jesus Christ has already paid the price for us, so it's finished.
1:14.3	His love and sacrifice were sufficient and powerful, and we are saved now.
1:20.1	Now, but we don't always experience or feel that salvation in real time,
1:25.6	but what salvation actually is is simply knowing who we are in Christ,
1:32.9	understanding our true identity because of what Christ did for us and then living into that reality.
1:40.1	Again, we don't always feel or see this reality until we believe it.
1:46.7	We have to have buy-in with, you know, cognitively.
1:49.6	That's why scripture constantly emphasizes the need to believe and to transform our minds.
1:55.8	Because God knows that we're never, that we're not going to experience that until we actually make that connection
2:03.9	now when you believe this truth in your mind that is when you begin to feel and experience the
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