Your Hard Does Not Cancel Their Hard | After Hours With Amanda Ep. 18
After Hours With Amanda
After Hours With Amanda
5.0 • 697 Ratings
🗓️ 21 April 2021
⏱️ 35 minutes
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Summary
In this episode of After Hours With Amanda, I’m talking about the phrase “just wait till you have kids” and why it can feel so invalidating when someone is trying to share that they are tired, overwhelmed, or struggling.
This one is about parenting, empathy, one upping, unmet needs, and learning to meet people with questions instead of comparison. I get into marriage, tiny humans, therapy exhaustion, the word “always,” my first grade teacher, stolen bubble gum, and a cake pop kindness moment I will never forget.
Your hard does not cancel their hard. Their hard does not cancel yours.
00:01 Welcome To After Hours With Amanda
01:06 Buckle Up Buttercup
01:25 Upcoming Episode About Going Back To Work
02:03 Just Wait Till You Have Kids
03:08 Why That Phrase Grinds My Gears
04:19 The One Upper Energy
04:58 Invalidation And Ego
06:15 You Cannot Hold People To Your Experience
07:05 When Someone Says They Are Tired
08:39 Is It Coming From An Unmet Need?
10:38 Marriage, Stress, And Making It About Me
12:48 Parenting Is Not The Only Kind Of Tired
14:12 Therapy Is Exhausting Too
15:43 They Have Not Experienced Your Trauma
17:38 What If My Kids Stop Talking To Me?
19:27 Can I Talk To You? Always
23:33 My Dream Of Encouraging Students
24:20 The First Grade Bubble Gum Story
29:03 The Cake Pop Kindness Moment
31:16 Awareness, Empathy, And Asking Questions
Transcript
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| 0:00.0 | Welcome to After Hours with Amanda, the podcast that is about parenting, but not strictly about |
| 0:06.3 | parenting. That's why we call it after hours with Amanda, because we talk about it all, because |
| 0:11.4 | God forbid, I find a catchy name for the podcast and call it that and pigeonhole myself into a topic. |
| 0:17.5 | For those of you that are just visiting us, welcome. What can you expect from this |
| 0:22.0 | podcast? Well, besides me being hopefully over-caffeinated in a few minutes, a few rabbit trails |
| 0:27.3 | and a topic that hopefully lands at the end, I have not done ads yet. So you can expect me to |
| 0:33.3 | talk for the entirety of this episode. You can also expect, there we go, perfect example, |
| 0:41.1 | bloopers in episode, because my technical skills and my ability to complete a project do not |
| 0:47.1 | lend themselves to me editing an episode and then publishing it. Because if that was the case, |
| 0:52.0 | if I had to redo these episodes in any way, |
| 0:55.6 | shape, or form, they would never happen. I would never upload an episode because I would just |
| 1:02.9 | stall out. So if you're here, you know what to expect. Buckle up Buttercup. It's time for |
| 1:08.6 | another episode. We're here. We're talking about it like i said there's a |
| 1:11.9 | lot of things that i want to talk about and i want to try and be that cool person that breaks them up |
| 1:18.8 | into episodes or series or things like that but usually i just have to share what's on my heart |
| 1:23.5 | and sometimes i'm even like oh good i three topics. That'll be like three great |
| 1:27.9 | episodes. And then I dump all of my thoughts in one. So let's just get ready. Let's dive into things. |
| 1:34.5 | And I know a lot of you have certain episodes you want me to talk about. And I am going to talk about |
| 1:38.3 | the episode that has been requested lately, which is how to go back to work and how to deal |
| 1:42.9 | with the, for some, this is not all. Some people are thrilled to go back to work and how to deal with the, for some, |
| 1:45.5 | this is not all. |
| 1:46.3 | Some people are thrilled to go back to work after having their first child. |
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