Your Dating List Is Keeping You Single

Sex With Emily

Sexuality, Health & Fitness

4.2 • 6.7K Ratings

🗓️ 18 November 2025

⏱️ 52 minutes

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1:07.8	I'm hearing a lot about ghosting. I'm hearing a lot of ghosting. I'm hearing a lot of dating frustration.
1:12.2	I'm hearing a lot of dating burnout. And I feel like the fix for that is to actually be more
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1:38.8	you'll never meet the one? Today, Celebrity Dating Coach Demona Hoffman is here to completely rewrite the dating rulebook.
1:46.2	We're breaking down the myths that are keeping you stuck, like the list myth, the chemistry
1:51.0	myth, and the fairy tale fantasy that's been messing with your head since you were five years
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