5 Things Secretly Stealing Your Pleasure

Sex With Emily

Health & Fitness, Sexuality

4.2 • 6.7K Ratings

🗓️ 21 November 2025

⏱️ 43 minutes

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1:15.4	This is really hot, but I'm having this like memory of that time. You said that critical thing about my
1:22.3	body and it's just shutting things down and I need to like take time to connect with you in the
1:27.1	present moment and remember that we heal that stuff.
1:30.1	The ability to stop and be like a different direction is also a direction where pleasure can be.
1:37.1	And the pleasure is more important than the momentum of getting through it.
1:45.1	You're listening to Sex with Emily.
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