You Should Know That Cognitive Distortions Never Work, Yet You Always Use Them!

The Virtual Couch

Tony Overbay LMFT

Education, Mental Health, Health & Fitness, Self-improvement

5 • 643 Ratings

🗓️ 14 October 2020

⏱️ 32 minutes

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Summary

Do you always feel like you’re never going to get what you want? Do you continuously find yourself thinking, “I should have done that differently?” (Knowing that NOBODY likes to be “should on?”). Or have you ever found yourself in the midst of what feels like a pretty good day, when one thing goes south and then you feel like your entire day is shot? Welcome to the world of “cognitive distortions.” These negative patterns of thinking are all-to-common, but they lead to increased feelings of anxiety and worry...two feelings that I believe we have enough of already...we certainly don’t need our automatic thought processes piling on as well. In today’s episode, Tony references the article “Challenging Our Cognitive Distortions and Creating Positive Outlooks,” by Dana White, LMHC, from Psychcentral.com https://psychcentral.com/lib/challenging-our-cognitive-distortions-and-creating-positive-outlooks/ - Tony mentioned a product that he used to take out all of the "uh's" and "um's" that, in his words, "must be created by wizards and magic!" because it's that good! To learn more about Descript click here https://descript.com?lmref=v95myQ (https://descript.com?lmref=v95myQ) - Please subscribe to The Virtual Couch YouTube channel at https://www.youtube.com/c/TheVirtualCouchPodcast/ (https://www.youtube.com/c/TheVirtualCouchPodcast/) and sign up at http://tonyoverbay.com (http://tonyoverbay.com) to learn more about Tony’s upcoming “Magnetic Marriage” program! - Tony's FREE parenting course, “Tips For Parenting Positively Even In the Not So Positive Times” is available NOW. Just go to http://tonyoverbay.com/courses/ (http://tonyoverbay.com/courses/) and sign up today. This course will help you understand why it can be so difficult to communicate with and understand your children. You’ll learn how to keep your buttons hidden, how to genuinely give praise that will truly build inner wealth in your child, teen, or even in your adult children, and you’ll learn how to move from being “the punisher” to being someone your children will want to go to when they need help. - This episode of The Virtual Couch is sponsored by http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch (http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch) With the continuing “sheltering” rules that are spreading across the country PLEASE do not think that you can’t continue or begin therapy now. http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch (http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch) can put you quickly in touch with licensed mental health professionals who can meet through text, email, or videoconference often as soon as 24-48 hours. And if you use the link http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch (http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch) you will receive 10% off your first month of services. Please make your own mental health a priority, http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch (http://betterhelp.com/virtualcouch) offers affordable counseling, and they even have sliding scale options if your budget is tight. - Tony's new best selling book "He's a Porn Addict...Now What? An Expert and a Former Addict Answer Your Questions" is now available on Kindle. https://amzn.to/38mauBo (https://amzn.to/38mauBo) - Tony Overbay, is the co-author of "He's a Porn Addict...Now What? An Expert and a Former Addict Answer Your Questions" now available on Amazon

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0:00.0	The weather. Tomorrow, expect a biting cold front. Hmm, how naughty. I wonder what I'll be
0:06.9	wearing or taking off. The night will be wild and untamed. Expect heavy, lashing rain that'll soak
0:13.6	you to the skin. By Monday, temperatures will rise slowly but surely reaching their peak in the
0:20.2	afternoon. Not in the afternoon.
0:23.0	Not in the mood for miserable weather.
0:25.6	Fly cheaply to Turkey with Sun Express.
0:28.7	Sun Express, nonstop sunshine.
0:32.8	Coming up on today's episode of the virtual couch,
0:36.1	do you always feel like you're never going to get what you want out of life, or do you always find yourself thinking about what you should have done instead of what you already did?
0:41.8	Well, welcome to the world of cognitive distortions.
0:44.8	Now, if you go back and listen to what I just finished saying, you'll hear the words always, never.
0:50.0	And did you realize that you just should all over yourself?
0:53.5	Well, we'll talk about these words and several others that ultimately leave us feeling a sense of worry and increased anxiety.
0:59.3	Again, we're talking cognitive distortions coming up on the virtual couch.
1:16.5	Hey, everybody, welcome to episode 228 of the virtual couch.
1:20.1	I am your host, Tony Overbay, and I'm a licensed marriage and family therapist.
1:22.4	And where's the rest of the intro?
1:32.0	So I had somebody in my office a few days ago, and they claimed that they have listened to all of my podcast episodes, and they asked me if I was a marriage and family therapist or a clinical social worker.
1:33.1	They couldn't remember.
1:34.1	And then they said something funny.
1:35.4	They said, you know, I feel like I would know this after hearing 200-something versions
1:39.5	of your intro, but I can't really remember what you've said.
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