Ladies, my home is a welcome back to Women of Impact and I'm Lissabaloo.

If this happens to be your first time listening to this podcast then water up my home and if you've actually joined me before, guys I'm so freaking happy you're back. Now today I have another Q&A from an Instagram live that's sure to help you stop freaking faking it and start to actually live into your total bad ass me. Now every Thursday guys I go live on Instagram because I really want to help women build the confidence that makes that biggest fricking audacious dreams a reality.

And so today I discuss. Now every Thursday guys I go live on Instagram because I really want to help women build the confidence that makes that big

It's freaking audacious dreams a reality and so today I discussed how to fully embrace your confidence without treading into cocky chick territory Yep, sometimes sadly we may spill over and we want to make sure that our confidence doesn't actually demean other people Now guys, I do these lives on Instagram to really help you be able to build your confidence and actually go after that dream.

And that's also why I have a free course to offer you guys that you can go right now and get it absolutely free. It's four steps in building your confidence. So go right now to the number four, stepworkshop.com and you can get your free workshop for utterly free right now. Let's go to the number four step workshop.com and you can get your free workshop utterly free right now. Let's go to the number four step workshop.com and let's build our confidence together. I got you my homey. Go check out the course and then also one more thing guys. If you actually find this podcast useful or relatable or actually empowering, it would be so meaningful. I know everybody says it. I know everyone says it, but guys we say it because it's actually true when you leave a rating and a review you have no idea how powerful that actually is to me and actually get in the podcast out into the world even more so please if you do find that my podcast brings you value I ask you to go leave a rate and review right now. How's everyone doing? Where are you calling from? Oh, calling from. Hi from India. That's amazing. What up India? Hello, hello, Maria Miller. Has it go in? Hi, Suvon? Pen? I'm really, really bad at saying people's names or apologies. I'm sure I'm completely butchering it. I'm here as always guys to answer your questions and hear what you guys are struggling with.

Let me know how I can help. I'm usually focusing on confidence because that's kind of like my thing where I have gone from not feeling confident until people started to ask me like, Lisa, how do you build your confidence? And you have no idea when that was so shocking to me, I was like, do you think of me as confident? I have such a negative voice in my head that's always being dismissive of me that's always

telling me that I'm no good, so the fact, do you think of me as confident? Like, I have such a negative voice in my head that's always being dismissive of me,

that's always telling me that I'm no good. So the fact that people with procedurally as confident was rather shocking to me. And sorry, let me know if my internet is lame. I'd de-plopologize. But yes, so here we are. So if you guys are struggling with anything, let me know. I'm here to answer your questions. There's a little question box at the bottom so you can just press it,

typing your question. I'm here to answer your questions.

There's a little question box at the bottom

so you can just press it, typing your question.

I'm also reading in the comments, but if you do that, I can then put it as a sticker at the bottom. Hello from Kenya, what up? Hello from Brazil. This is so amazing. What an eclectic bunch we have here. Oh, shit. actually I get very excited sometimes guys.

So let's have a look, let's see if anyone's

oh, got a couple of questions.

Okay. Because I get very excited sometimes guys. So let's have that let's see if anyone's all got a couple of questions. Okay, I actually love this question. Thank you so much, Lynn, for this question. How do you exude confidence without looking cocky? So this was really tough for me because when you come from a place where you don't have the confidence and then you start to build it, you start to feel really good about yourself. And so you can be, you should, you should be proud of the, the progression that you have made. The problem is when you are with other people that sometimes don't have confidence, they can perceive you to be cookie. And that's where it actually happened to me once. So I'd built my confidence. I was away with a friend. I'm always very transparent and honest. So I'd like, oh, what do you want to do? This is what I want to do.

And over a period of a couple of days of me being kind of that confident in speaking just what I want, she actually approached me and was like, hey, you're actually triggering me right now because I feel like you're being very pushy. And I was like, oh my god, I had no no intention of being pushy. I was just being very honest and transparent about what I actually wanted. And it was the first sign that I was like, do I have to like maybe done myself, not done myself down, but like start to be less confident in front of people that maybe don't have as much confidence? And then I thought, well, that actually doesn't serve me, that doesn't serve my progression and it doesn't serve my friend hopefully or the people around you because hopefully you can become an example of what is possible. So I started to go back into the old Lisa, the old Lisa when I was younger, I saw confident women as intimidation. Now the reason why I saw women as intimidation is because I felt so badly about myself. So I think with this question the very key is do not, do not make yourself less confident or less you around other people. Hear it. Then now go into situations with a bit of empathy. Know who you're talking to. So what that means is that don't say words or phrases that are going to potentially trigger them or demean. Be it focus on yourself and your confidence but be do be aware of who you're talking to and are you talking in a way that can empower people that can lift them up and feel good about themselves or is it a way of being like see what I got right like the thegging? Like are it your bragging which I don't think bragging the word bragging has a negative context but to me it's about celebrating your wins it's about celebrating the things that you would choose don't you freaking not celebrate those because you've worked damn hard to build your confidence so that you can get to the point where you've achieved great things that great things to you So do not Sat close by stat in service of a person around you But do be very careful and aware of who you're talking to how you're phrasing things and if you're using words are going to make them feel badly about themselves or if you're going to uplift them Thank you girl. That was was such a great question, I really appreciate it. So again guys, I'm here to answer questions, drop them in. Okay, let's have a look at this. How do you set boundaries with others, commenting on your body? So boundaries, I really love talking about because I had zero boundaries. I was the person that didn't know how to set them.

And then as I started to learn about boundaries, I actually swung hard the other way. So if you kind of think about boundaries as being on the spectrum, I would like had zero boundaries. And then when I started to build them, realized the importance of boundaries, I flipped the other way and I came in like a freaking bull in a Chinese shop.

Now the reason why I came in like a bull in a Chinese shop

was good and good about myself.

And so in order for me just to hold strong to a boundary, I had to do everything I can and just being bullish was easier than like nuance of being polite and setting them in a way that you can feel confident about, said it. So I didn't be myself up over it. I knew, recognize that I've slung all the way to

the other end. But then I started to find things in the middle. And I think I might have shared the story, but I'm just going to share it again because it was super powerful. I used to be the person like us and someone disrespected me as I started to build my boundaries. I'd be like, Hey, that doesn't fly. Don't talk to me like that. And I would come across quite aggressive. Now, the sad thing is, we're trying to manipulate you.

When you come across aggressive, what are you going to do?

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