You’re Not Broken, You’re Patterned: Why We Do Things We Don’t Want to Do in Parenting
The Intentional Parents Podcast
Intentional
4.9 • 1.6K Ratings
🗓️ 11 June 2025
⏱️ 52 minutes
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Summary
Do you ever feel stuck in a reactive cycle as a parent — responding in ways you wish you wouldn't, again and again? Like Paul in Romans 7:15, you might find yourself saying, “I do not understand what I do. For what I want to do I do not do, but what I hate I do.”
Here’s the good news: you’re not broken — you’re patterned. And patterns can be healed.
In this episode, we unpack what it means to be shaped by behavioral patterns, where they come from, and how they show up in our parenting and marriage. We explore the early steps toward recognizing and healing these patterns, and how God’s redemptive work can bring real change.
Through scripture, personal stories, and practical steps, we guide you toward deeper awareness — and point you to the healing that leads to freedom and greater connection in your home.
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Steps for Experiencing Healing From Patterns:
1. Name the story
2. Grieve the loss of what should have been but wasn’t
3. Invite Jesus into that wound
4. Practice new patterns
Reflection:
Reflect on one pattern that shows up often in your marriage, parenting or friendship
Question:
What is that pattern protecting you from and what is it trying to say?
Prayer:
Ask Jesus to help you be curious and kind about your story.
Scripture Mentioned: Romans 7:15, 1 Corinthians 11:1, 2 Corinthians 12:9-10, Romans 7:14-18, Romans 7:22-25, James 1:19-20 + Isaiah 53:3
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| 0:00.0 | Hey friends, it's Brooke Moser. I'm teaming up with Justin Whitmell Early, author of Habits of the |
| 0:07.3 | household, to launch something really close to our hearts. It's called Intentional Fatherhood, |
| 0:12.5 | a podcast for men who want to become intentional fathers, the kind who lead their families |
| 0:17.3 | to follow the way of Jesus through daily habit formation. |
| 0:23.6 | We believe that fatherhood is spiritual formation. |
| 0:26.3 | It's not just about managing the chaos. |
| 0:31.0 | It's actually about showing up faithfully, forming your children's hearts over time, and even breaking the generational cycles that don't belong in your family's future. |
| 0:35.8 | The first episode drops Friday, June 13th, |
| 0:39.1 | and we'd love for you to join us. Just search Intentional Fatherhood wherever you get your podcast. |
| 0:45.2 | Help us spread the word, and please enjoy this offering. |
| 0:52.9 | You're listening to the Intentional Parents podcast brought to you by Intentional. |
| 0:58.1 | Intentional is all about spiritual formation in the family. |
| 1:01.8 | We desire to bring biblical hope and practical hope. |
| 1:05.4 | Enjoy this week's conversation. |
| 1:14.7 | Welcome back to the Intentional Parents podcast. |
| 1:18.8 | You're not broken, but you are patterned. |
| 1:21.2 | And that is something that we want to talk about today. |
| 1:24.9 | We want to talk about Romans 7, that wonderful dynamic. |
| 1:30.1 | When we do what we don't want to do, we end doing it anyway that crazy dynamic we want to talk about why we react this way how we can heal from it and really what are |
| 1:36.0 | the beginning steps to not just feel like we're a broken person but understand stand our patterns |
| 1:41.4 | and how god wants to redeem that restore restore it, help our marriages, help |
| 1:44.6 | our parenting in a deep way. Thank you for everyone that is rated, subscribed, and also just |
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