So, Kathy, as you know, every once in a while we like to open up our Nancy mail back if you will.

I love mail, you know that.

Yeah, you know that.

So we get a lot of emails, letters, you name it, and a lot of that mail is questions from listeners looking for some advice.

We're just super flattering, but I have to say you and I, we don't quite have the qualifications.

So we don't have the proper expertise.

Not at all.

Like at all, like at all.

But luckily, we know someone who does.

From WNYC Studios, this is Nancy, with your host, Tobin Lo and Happy 2.

So today we've brought in our friend, JP Brammer.

Hi JP.

You write an advice column called Ola Poppy for the queer publication them.

So just easy question right off the bat.

When did you realize you had every single answer?

Early in life, I think I just came into this world in the know.

Okay, okay, but actually what I want to know is what's the best piece of advice you've ever gotten.

Oh my god, it's the one that I hold very close to my heart.

It was when I was in middle school and I was about to go to the school dance.

And I was really, really terrified about dancing in front of other people.

And I sort of vocalized this to my mom when we were back home and she turned to me and she was like,

no one's going to be looking at you.

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