One time I hooked up with this guy and mid hook up, I was really drunk.

He took a dildo out of the bedside table and started to try and insert it.

Oh god.

And I was like, I am not really feeling that tonight.

Thank you. I just ate.

Did you tell him that?

I didn't say it. I was like, I am not really into this this evening.

Whatever.

I picked up just to think Kathy.

Okay.

So when I said that he took his hand away and then he whispered in my ear,

I'll just leave it here in case you change your mind.

From WNYC Studios, this is Nancy, with your host Tobin Low and Kathy too.

Tobin.

Kathy.

When you were telling me that very, very specific dildo story, it got me thinking,

Oh no, I am nervous. Where are you going with this?

So there's the thing that we're sort of bombarded with growing up.

And that is that sex is when a penis goes into a vagina.

Yeah, familiar.

But as you and I both know, and a lot of people know, that's not necessarily how queer people have sex.

And that means a lot of times we have to figure out for ourselves what works and what doesn't work.

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