What is up? I'm Grace Beverly and welcome back to Working Hard, the podcast shared guide book on how to improve your own life and achieve what you actually dreamed of doing, because life's too short for boring podcasts and bad advice.

What is up and welcome back to working hard? This episode is specifically for anyone who stands staring

at their wardrobe every morning and thinks what the fuck do I wear? Like why do I have multiple

clothes here and I don't know a single thing to wear?

I don't feel like there's anything here that expresses my personal style, and I'm annoyed about that very fact.

Firstly, I just quickly want to talk about why style isn't superficial. I feel like, as with a lot of things on my channel, I feel like

as soon as we start talking about, like, beauty and hair and nails are internalized misogyny,

really, and all of the kind of views we've had around that makes us feel like we're concentrating

on silly things or we're paying attention to

vapid kind of parts of our lives and I don't buy into that and I feel like we should actively

try not to buy into that because again it's a double-edged sword it's how we're seen as women like

we're expected to be quote unquote presentable and to look a certain way and to dress well and whatever it might be. And you can reject all of that if you want to, but if you want to concentrate on that, whether because it's something that you feel like you've been encouraged to do by external society or because you actually want to do that, you have a right to do that without then feeling vapid about it. But I generally feel like we're all told that clothes

shouldn't matter to how we feel or that your style doesn't reflect you or how you dress doesn't

reflect you. And I feel like we all think that clothes shouldn't matter to how we feel. But they

definitely do. And this is because of something psychologists call in clothed cognition,

which is basically a fancy word that says the way we dress directly affects how we think,

feel and behave. So what you wear influences everything from how confident you feel to how

assertive you are in a meeting to whether you even like leave the house in the first place.

I also think that this is a good place to start if you are struggling with motivation or your identity or your

self-confidence. And when you're focusing on things like that, if some of the bigger inner work

feels too much, then your wardrobe is actually a really good place to start. I think, again, we think

of style and we think of wardrobe as like a cherry on top or something that just happens to exist and isn't really important to our lives.

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