When you drift, you do it for years before you even realize that you're lost.

And other people around you can see it, but you don't see it.

And then what you say, and I've done this is, man, I was blindsided in my relationship.

You're just ignoring everything.

But what I've found is that most men don't wake up one day just ruined and devastated.

They wake up one day and they're regretful about what they missed if they actually

wake up to the reality of their situation. They look around and they'll ask themselves and how many

times have you asked yourself is, how did I get here? Men about this time of year, a lot of us

start thinking about how our year went and what we want to accomplish in the next year.

And as I've been thinking about what I wanted to share with you, I've come to a realization.

And I've known this for a while and I'm sure many of you do as well.

So maybe this is a refresher or maybe you're hearing it for the first time.

But guys, we cannot drift our way into success.

I think there's some common misconceptions,

some common beliefs that that life just sort of works out, that things just sort of happen,

that if you're a good and decent human being, or if you, you know, stay out of trouble, or if you just keep your head down, then somehow in some you, you know, stay out of trouble or if you just keep your head down,

then somehow in some way you'll wake up one day with the body that you want or being

respected or fulfilled or just proud of the man that you've become. And it sounds silly when I

say it like that. And I think it's a little bit covert in the way that it

happens. But when we start to discount what other people are doing, or we say they're lucky or,

you know, things just don't happen to me. If I was there, you know, he was at the right place,

the right time. That's the kind of thing that we say. And what that means is that we're

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