BRADY PESOLA | Low Profile, High Capability: Becoming a Grayman

Order of Man

Ryan Michler

Society & Culture, Business

4.8 • 9K Ratings

🗓️ 30 December 2025

⏱️ 69 minutes

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Summary

It seems anymore that people are operating increasingly out of extremes without any context, nuance, or understanding. I get it – outrage sells. And, to some degree, I've been guilty of it myself. But I've found myself as I get older – wanting to go find a piece of land and work on my canoe – rather than engage in what social media has diminished us too.

My guest today, Brady Pesola, would agree and, he's made a life out of studying ancient philosophy combined with practical, nuanced modern insight. Today, we talk about social independence, the "Golden Mean," what he calls "The Stop Light" theory, meta-cognition, and the concept of the Grayman and how it can help you operate as a man.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS
00:00 - Welcome Back & Reconnecting
01:03 - The Breakdown of Modern Communication
04:52 - Hive Mind, Social Media & Framing Bias
06:53 - Marketing Yourself vs Manipulating Emotion
09:17 - Finding the Right Tribe
12:27 - Value, Reciprocity & Relationships
14:48 - Technical Interruption & Reset
16:46 - The Golden Mean vs Extreme Success
20:35 - Sacrifices, Success & Contentment
24:55 - Adversity, Resilience & Upbringing
27:11 - Red Light vs Green Light Theory
29:59 - Perspective on Inconvenience & Gratitude
33:18 - When Red Lights Save You
36:47 - Grace for Yourself & Others
38:24 - "I've Never Done This Before" Mindset
41:37 - Road Rage, Ego & Consequences
47:00 - Measuring Self-Awareness
48:20 - Metacognition & Emotional Control
52:49 - The Gray Man Concept
55:42 - Mental Discipline Over Appearance
58:02 - Ego, Posturing & Survival
01:00:13 - Where to Find Brady
01:03:33 - Outro & Recording Wrap

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0:00.0	It seems any more that people are operating increasingly out of extremes without any context, nuance, or understanding.
0:09.1	I get it.
0:10.3	Outrage sells.
0:11.2	And to some degree, I know, guys, I've been guilty of it myself.
0:14.6	But I have found that as I get older, wanting for myself to go find a piece of land and just work on my canoe or something,
0:23.3	rather than engage in what social media has diminished us too.
0:28.0	My guest today, Brady Posola, would agree and he's made life out of studying ancient philosophy
0:33.8	combined with practical, nuanced, modern insight. And today we talk about social
0:39.8	independence and how to get it, the golden mean and why you should operate in it, what he calls
0:46.1	the stoplight theory, something called metacognition, which is thinking about thinking, and also
0:52.8	the concept of the gray man and how it can help you
0:56.0	operate as a man you're a man of action you live life to the fullest embrace your fears and
1:02.0	boldly charge your own path when life knocks you down you get back up one more time every time
1:07.7	you are not easily deterred or defeated rugged resilient strong this is your
1:13.6	life this is who you are this is who you will become at the end of the day and after all is
1:19.3	said and done you can call yourself a man men welcome to the order of man my name
1:26.5	is Ryan Mickler I'm your host and the founder of the podcast, and I want to welcome you here today. Very glad that you're tuning in. Got a great show lined up with a good friend of mine. His name is Brady Pissola. And we've got some great, great podcast in addition to this one coming out in January. So make sure you subscribe, leave yourself a rating and review.
1:45.9	Leave me a rating and review that helps the movement.
1:48.2	And it helps us secure other good podcast guests that we can gain some insight from
1:52.6	and help you apply it in your life.
1:54.6	Before I get any further, I want to talk about my friends and the show sponsors.
1:58.4	You guys have heard me talk about a Montana knife company.
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