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And I was a miserable failure in my relationships until I love myself enough to be able to share my love with other people.

Welcome to the R-Spot, a production of Shandaland Audio in partnership with I Heart Radio. I have a confession I want to make today. My daughter, my adult daughter has decided she doesn't want to speak to me.

For many, many months, she ghosted me, wouldn't respond to my telephone calls, wouldn't answer my texts.

And when we did connect, she acted like nothing were going on as if I

were crazy now there are days when my sanity can be questioned but that's not the issue the issue here is how does a child an

adult child resolve issues upset breakdowns with their mother as an adult and why is it that we think it's okay to just cut our

mothers off? Now I'm not talking about a physically abusive or verbally

abusive mother, I'm talking about a mother that you have

differences with because you're a woman and she's a woman. What makes us think that it's okay to just cut our mothers off?

And if you are a mother, how do you think it would feel for your child

to cut you off. It's hard. It's a hard life when you're

and break down with your mother, but we need to talk about it. When it comes to

your mother, my question is, how do you know this is about her and not about you?

How do you know this is not about how you see things feel things and just about who she is as a person?

And the other difficulty in dealing with mothers

is learning how to be an adult

in the face of your mommy.

Now, listen, as a mother, I know that mothers can be difficult, but I also know that there is no greater

love, no greater connection than the one between a mother and a child.

So when there's a breakdown between a mother and an adult child,

I am sorry to say that everybody has to take responsibility for their part in the breakdown, even me.

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