Breaking Up With Your B.S.
The R Spot with Iyanla
Shondaland Audio and iHeartPodcasts
4.9 • 908 Ratings
🗓️ 30 August 2023
⏱️ 30 minutes
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Summary
This week’s callers think there are no more good single men out there. One woman is only attracting men who take and never give in the relationship, and now she measures her relationships as a transaction. Then, the second caller believes she’ll never find what she wants in a partner, and because of that ends up finding men who leave her. Iyanla takes it all the way back to the root, diving into each callers’ belief systems (B.S.) developed at a young age.
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| 0:00.0 | This is an I-Heart podcast. Guaranteed Human. |
| 0:06.4 | I am Iyamla, your host, your guide, a teacher for Sam and a soft place to fall for others. |
| 0:13.9 | And I was a miserable failure in my relationships until I love myself enough to be able to share my love with other people. |
| 0:24.1 | Welcome to The R Spot, a production of Shandaland Audio in partnership with IHeart Radio. Everyone has their own BS, their own belief system. |
| 0:48.9 | And everyone believes things about the world based on that BS, that belief system. It's a survival mechanism |
| 0:58.0 | or a way of understanding the world around us and our experiences. If you were bitten by a dog |
| 1:06.1 | at a young age, you might believe that all dogs will bite you, that dogs are scary and dangerous. |
| 1:12.6 | If you've ever had a car accident, maybe you are afraid to drive. Anything and everything we |
| 1:20.3 | experience can push the triggers of our belief systems in one way or another, and that also applies to relationships. People who |
| 1:31.3 | have dealt with abandonment will attract those who abandon them. People who have dealt with rejection |
| 1:37.1 | will attract those who reject them. And others who believe they don't deserve love, can't have love, won't ever get love, |
| 1:47.5 | will attract people who cannot give them the love that they want or need. |
| 1:53.9 | It's a catch-22. |
| 1:55.8 | So how do you fix that? |
| 1:58.3 | How do you heal those issues? |
| 2:03.1 | Well, we're going to learn about that today. |
| 2:05.5 | Let's say hello to our first caller. |
| 2:17.0 | Good afternoon, beloved. Welcome to the R spot. How can I support you today? First, I want to say, |
| 2:17.8 | I love you. I've been listening to you for years. I wish you today? First, I want to say, I love you. |
| 2:19.7 | I've been listening to you for years. |
| 2:22.2 | I wish you could be like my personal therapist. |
| 2:23.1 | I really wish. |
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