You cannot convince someone to love you.

You can't convince someone to choose you.

You could strategize all you want.

You can beg, you could plead, you can tell them how much,

how much of a mistake they're making, if they leave the relationship.

You can try to do all the right things so that they love you or so that they choose you.

And none of it's going to work because it is truly one of the laws of the land.

You can't convince someone to love you.

And when you try, you are going to suffer immensely.

In fact, the suffering that you're going to experience from having to convince someone to love you, choose you, or stay in a

relationship with you is going to be disproportionately larger than experiencing the rejection

of them not wanting you or wanting to be in a relationship with you. If we're just seeing someone

or we're dating and someone doesn't choose us, that pain is more pain of the ego and we have to

see it as such. You know, you go out and you see someone, you think they're attractive, or you start

talking to them and you find them attractive, attractive, or you start talking to them,

and you find them attractive, you find that you're attracted to them,

and then someone walks into the room, maybe they're better looking than you,

maybe whatever it is, and all their attention goes to the other person.

Your ego is going to feel it.

The reality is that if someone's attention goes to someone else,

they're not actually for you.

And once you really understand that, everything falls into place.

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