You Can’t Love Yourself If You Don’t Know Who You Are | Lisa Bilyeu (Fan Fav)

Women of Impact

Impact Theory

Education, Society & Culture, Mental Health, Relationships, Health & Fitness

4.7 • 657 Ratings

🗓️ 13 June 2025

⏱️ 42 minutes

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This is a Fan Fav episode. On this episode of Women of Impact, I (Lisa Bilyeu) invite you to take a raw, real, and actionable journey into the core of self love, self discovery, and what it means to truly prioritize yourself. Joined by powerhouse women—including Mel Robbins and other inspiring voices—we strip back the pressure of “just love yourself” and dig deep into the practical tools, honest struggles, and daily habits it takes to actually build self-acceptance and confidence from the inside out. With unfiltered conversation, candid stories, and advice you can use today, we break down the difference between knowing who you are and loving who you are, tackling everything from the shame spiral to the importance of journaling, honoring your victories, and standing strong in your identity—no matter what life hands you. SHOWNOTES 00:00:00 – Defining self love: Treating yourself as well as you treat your most loved person 00:00:32 – How meditation and journaling spark self discovery and identity beyond others’ opinions 00:02:25 – The power of supportive relationships: Learning from partners who model self-acceptance 00:04:44 – Facing life’s punches: Developing resilience through setbacks, not just pep talks 00:09:49 – Journaling as self-creation: Practical exercises for connecting with your future self 00:13:04 – Why just “loving yourself” isn’t enough—and the liberating step of acceptance 00:17:01 – Discovering what truly fulfills you beyond roles, titles, or external validation 00:20:35 – Unpacking childhood wounds around worth, appearance, and identity—and the power of healing before the fall 00:22:44 – Redefining wealth and worth: Why fulfillment must go deeper than money or success 00:24:08 – Everyday self love in practice: The humblebrag challenge and rewiring your own narrative CHECK OUT OUR SPONSORS Vital Proteins: Get 20% off by going to ⁠https://www.vitalproteins.com⁠ and entering promo code WOI at check out. BIOptimizers: Head to⁠ https://bioptimizers.com/impact ⁠and use code IMPACT for 10% off. OneSkin: Get 15% off with code LISA at ⁠https://oneskin.co ⁠ Shopify: Sign up for your one-dollar-per-month trial period at ⁠https://shopify.com/lisa⁠ FOLLOW MEL ROBBINS: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/melrobbins/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/melrobbinsWebsite: https://melrobbins.com/ FOLLOW JAY SHETTY (Referenced in the episode): Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jayshetty/ Website: https://jayshetty.me/ You’ll walk away with practical tools and the belief—you’ve got this, girl. Now let’s love ourselves out loud, one honest moment at a time. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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0:58.0	For me, self-love is picturing the person that you love the most and telling yourself, I will not treat myself any less than I would treat that person.
1:03.0	To love yourself is to say, this is hard.
1:06.0	I'm not comfortable.
1:08.0	But I love myself so damn much that, girl, you better get your ass up.
1:13.5	You got it.
1:14.5	Keep going.
1:23.5	Yeah, it felt that way for a long time that I felt something was missing.
1:27.0	I knew that my love for myself could not be based on other people.
1:30.3	There had to be something else that I could have a foundation of,
1:34.3	okay, fine, they can be ups and downs, but I never go down to a low where I don't love myself.
1:39.3	And I definitely think meditation was the turning point for me.
1:42.3	And I felt that because it was the one time in the day
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