I amla, your host, your guide, a teacher for Sam and a soft place to fall for others.

And I was a miserable failure in my relationships until I love myself enough to be able to share my love with other people.

Welcome to the R-Spot, a production of Shandaland Audio in partnership with I Heart Radio. I always find it very curious when people call me about their relationship and they're concerned about something that's going on in the relationship now that was going on when the relationship started.

My theory, my principle, my experience has always been that if it's

there at the beginning it will cause the end. So if you go into a relationship with somebody that's already in a relationship

let me tell you something that relationship is going in when they go into a

relationship while they're in relationship

with you. I don't care what you want to tell yourself. If you want to know the

end, look at the beginning.

If it's out of order in the beginning, it will be out of order in the end.

And I had someone call me about that exact issue.

Here's that call.

Great things, beloved.

Thank you for calling the R spot.

Now, I understand that you are for calling the R spot. Now I understand that you are a single mother of two and you are involved with a man who has a partner. Is that accurate?

That is accurate, Yama. Ah, ah, so what is your question, concern, inquiry problem?

You got problems, I know you know you got problems right. Yes.

But I want to hear, I want to hear it out of your mouth.

What's the problem?

The problem is me and this person we connect really well. We share a lot of the same goals, desires.

He pulls a lot out of me that if we didn't have the relationship that we had I don't think I would be

discovering certain things that I'm discovering about myself I don't know whether to let it go or not because

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