Hi everybody. Thanks again for tuning into the women's dating and confidence podcast. Today is going to be a shorter episode because I really only have one thing to tell you.

And that is that you are not a chore.

And it's really important for you to not be spending time with people who treat you as if you are a chore.

So remember when you were in high school or in middle school and your mom would nag you and

nag you and nag you to take out the dishes or take out the trash or walk the dog or water the

lawn. I mean, at least I had to do a bunch of chores when I was younger. And you're like, oh, like, okay. And then when you did do it, it was like,

okay, what's the bare minimum amount of effort that I have to put in so that she'll stop

nagging me? A lot of women, including myself in the past, find themselves in a situation where they're with a guy who treats

them as if they are that chore, that thing that they put the bare minimum effort in

in order for them to stop getting nagged by, well, you.

And when you spend time with people who treat you as if it's not a pleasure

to spend time with you and to invest in your relationship, that really damages your self-esteem

over time. And it's also a shame because it prevents you from meeting

people who really do think that you're awesome and would gladly spend time with you and invest in that

relationship. And this idea actually just came up for me recently because I have a friend who was kind of in that

situation where her asking him to spend time with her was like, oh, I'm so busy and I have so

much on my mind, like, uh, and I'm just thinking to myself as her best friend that hanging out with her is the easiest thing in the world.

And I can't believe that some guy is acting as if it's difficult.

Like, she's so hilarious and so insightful and amazing.

And some people just can't appreciate that in somebody, or maybe they're not compatible.

Who knows why that guy would act that way. But the point is that she deserves

more than a guy who acts like it's difficult to hang out with her. And I remember a few years ago,

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