Yes, there are people that know how to control you and steal your power

Love and Abuse

Paul Colaianni

Mental Health, Lies, Emotional, Health & Fitness, Psychological, Society & Culture, Deception, Manipulation, Narcissism, Verbal, Abuse, Relationships

4.6 • 816 Ratings

🗓️ 23 March 2019

⏱️ 24 minutes

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Summary

We are often told that we can choose how to feel and that no one can actually control us. However, in emotional abuse and manipulation, that concept doesn't seem to hold true at all.

In fact, it seems that we can be conned by our own brain as the manipulator finds tiny ways to break us down from the inside out.

In this episode, I share the signs of control and what you can do about it when it starts. Love and Abuse is the official podcast of The M.E.A.N. Workbook on manipulation and emotional abuse at loveandabuse.com. #loveandabuse

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0:00.0	Welcome to Love and Abuse, the show about helping you identify poisonous communication and toxic behavior.
0:07.4	You deserve to be treated with respect and kindness.
0:10.9	That's why it's important that you learn to pinpoint manipulative and controlling behavior so that you keep your power and your sanity.
0:18.6	I'm your host, Paul Koliani.
0:31.2	Music power and your sanity. I'm your host, Paul Koliani. Hey, in this episode of Love and Abuse, I want to cover the topic of other people controlling how you feel.
0:41.1	I received an email recently that said,
0:42.8	It's interesting to me how you keep talking about allowing others to, quote, make me feel.
0:49.2	I can't imagine something more poisonous than buying into the idea that others can control how I feel, that others
0:55.4	have a magic button to control what goes on inside of me. And he says, I think it's important to
0:59.9	understand how we feel something inside of us. It is something we can control that we should never
1:05.7	give our power to others. I totally agree. I think that we should never give our power to others.
1:14.0	And unfortunately, I've seen way too many instances where somebody can indirectly control how we feel.
1:24.8	I realize that is a disempowering statement. I realize that there are people right now
1:31.2	saying that's not true. I can choose how I feel. I can choose my responses. I can choose my behavior.
1:39.6	I can choose my emotions and I have free will. And all of the above is yes and. Yes, you can. And there are
1:50.4	other people that know how to push your buttons. There are other people that know buttons that
1:56.0	you don't know you have. There are other people that know how to communicate in a way to make you make decisions
2:03.9	that you wouldn't have necessarily made had it not been for them. And we could go back and say,
2:12.3	well, if you're in that type of situation where someone is communicating in a poisonous way,
2:19.0	then you need to see that poisonous communication and check in with yourself
2:23.6	and make sure that you aren't making decisions based on bad information.
2:29.8	People might tell you that.
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