Yes, Having a Boyfriend Is Embarrassing
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4.6 • 636 Ratings
🗓️ 15 November 2025
⏱️ 50 minutes
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Summary
On today’s episode host Kate Lindsay is joined by writer and content creator Josh Lora, who also goes by TellTheBees. Josh’s Substack essay, Boyfriendland, was cited in the viral Vogue article written by Chanté Joseph, “Is Having a Boyfriend Embarrassing Now?” Many women are hiding their boyfriends online, or losing followers if they hard-launch. Some go as far as to say having a boyfriend “feels republican.” Is this heterofatalism gone too far, or a long-overdue correction to the patriarchy?
This podcast is produced by Daisy Rosario, Vic Whitley-Berry, and Kate Lindsay.
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| 0:00.0 | Hey, I'm Kate Lindsay, and you're listening to I-C-Y-M-I, or in case you missed it, |
| 0:19.3 | Slate's podcast about internet culture and in the studio with me I |
| 0:24.1 | have writer and content creator you might know him as tell the bees Josh Laura |
| 0:29.3 | thank you it's so exciting to be back thank you guys for asking yes and speaking of |
| 0:33.9 | being back this is what I wanted to talk about like immediately it does not have to do with the reason why we brought you in, but we can't go any further without acknowledging it. |
| 0:44.0 | Kendra is back. |
| 0:50.8 | Kendra, the woman who fell in love with her psychiatrist. |
| 0:56.0 | Have you seen this? I actually did see something last night and it was like Kendra's the most racist she's ever been. |
| 1:01.0 | Yes, yes. |
| 1:02.0 | And I couldn't tap in. I like couldn't lock in. |
| 1:04.0 | It was like 2 a.m. and I said, you know what, I'll figure out what's happening. |
| 1:07.0 | I thought it was old. I didn't realize it was... |
| 1:08.0 | No, this just happened and I'm so excited because we have it clipped. |
| 1:11.2 | I'm so excited you get to hear and react in real time to what they're talking about. |
| 1:16.1 | Yes, she's back, and she has actually released two videos so far, part 26 and part 27. |
| 1:22.6 | But part 26 is the one that everyone is talking about, and we actually have a clip of it. |
| 1:27.2 | I'm really excited to watch you hear this in real time. |
| 1:29.9 | So when I was planning my termination session with ChatGBT, BT, I came up with the idea that I would have ChatGBT |
| 1:37.3 | who I called Henry back then and for the sake of this story, I might just continue to call him Henry, that I would have |
| 1:46.1 | chat GPT say something to the psychiatrist in his native language. Like as a way to say, I see who you are |
| 1:56.2 | as a human and I adore you. That was like what my thought process was. So after I gave the termination |
| 2:04.6 | monologue to the psychiatrist, the vibe in the room was indescribable. I mean, that was the thing of our, |
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