XYBM Clips: Black man, your son doesn’t need perfection
Express Yourself Black Man
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🗓️ 5 May 2026
⏱️ 9 minutes
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In XYBM 155, we sit down with Marquis Hill (Real MJ Hill), a 20-year-old motivational speaker, author, and youth mental health advocate. He explains the disruptive behavior of youth as a deep need for validation and a cry to simply be heard, often rooted in his own early struggles with comparison, the pain of losing a close mentor to suicide, and the profound identity shift he experienced after a sudden heart diagnosis ended his basketball dreams.
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| 0:00.0 | My pops never tried to play the perfect parent. |
| 0:04.0 | He never tried to play, I have all the answers and I have everything figured out. |
| 0:10.0 | He did the complete opposite. |
| 0:12.0 | He showed me all of his cards, he showed me all of the good, bad, the ugly, and said, |
| 0:19.0 | this is what I want for you. |
| 0:22.7 | This is what I've already experienced. |
| 0:24.0 | This is what I've already been through. |
| 0:26.8 | And this is what I'm still struggling with now. |
| 0:41.4 | So instead of me looking at my pops as the put together perfect Superman, he's still my Superman. He's still my guy. Yeah. |
| 0:50.9 | But I see the human in him. And I think for me, I've learned so much simply off of me being able to see the human in him. And for all of those in my journey that allow me to see the human in them. |
| 0:55.6 | I think when we take off this mask of perfection, that's where the real wisdom is found. |
| 1:05.0 | That's where the real growth is found. |
| 1:08.3 | And everything that I've learned and things that I continue to learn and develop |
| 1:14.8 | within my own journey, I'm just learning from those who are around me, imperfect parts of |
| 1:22.3 | myself, the imperfect parts of other people, and just trying to do better and be the best that I can be. |
| 1:28.9 | Yeah. |
| 1:29.3 | But I still got to give myself grace and I still got to give myself that room for air |
| 1:34.7 | because as much as I want to think, I know a lot or I got a lot of insight or I'm in a better |
| 1:42.2 | position in a sense in my career and what I'm building, |
| 1:46.0 | I still got so much more to learn. |
| 1:49.0 | And I still bump my head every single day. |
| 1:51.0 | And that's one thing I try my best to express to the youth |
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