All right, men, welcome to the man talk show. I'm Connor Beaton. Today we're going to be talking about

women validating your emotions and specifically why you should stop making women validate your emotions.

So I got a question recently from a man who said, hi, Connor, something that's been on my mind lately

about women is that I've noticed with several women in my life, they always seem to want me or the men in

their lives to validate their emotions and their feelings, but they never want to reciprocate it

and validate the man's feelings of return. This was really evident with my ex, but I've noticed

this with other women, i.e. friends' wives, girlfriends, et. To me, this seems like they just want control. Do you find that

this is a common trade in general with women, that they need to or never need to apologize or

validate a man's feelings? Just a thought, I feel like it should go both ways. Maybe it's something

you could cover on the show. Okay. So first and foremost, why should it go both

ways? Why is it that just because a woman might want something from you that it's automatically

expected that you should get that in return from her? This is a very sort of feminine approach

to a relational dynamic that when emotions are shared,

that those emotions are validated. This is a misconception. You know, a lot of women are telling men

in our modern culture, a lot of men hear this idea, like, you should open up more, you should be

more vulnerable, you should share your emotions more, you should talk more. That's a very feminine way of putting it. What most

women are actually saying in that space is, I see you as being emotionally disregulated. I see you as

being emotionally unsafe. So for me to feel safe in this relationship, I want you to share your emotions,

not so that I do anything with them, not so that I be responsible for them, not for me to validate them,

not for me to tell you what to do with them, because that will lead to codependency and all kinds of

challenges within the relationship.

But I want you to share some of your emotional experience and landscape so I know that you are

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