All right. Who's ready to pick a fight? You ready for this? All right, grab your Bibles. We're going to dig in. We are following this couple. We saw who they are. We see a meet, date, fall in love, get married, make that vow. Last week was the honeymoon. That was a lot of fun. And now we are going to talk

about how to fight. Now, some people will ask me, do Christian couples godly men and women,

do they fight? Some of you fought on the way here. I know it. You know why? Because it's Sunday.

There is nothing like a good on the way to church. I can't stand you. I can't

believe you. I'm always waiting on you. Into car honking horns. Get the kids ready. Get the church just

fussing. Don't even walk together to the door. Then you get here and people say, how you doing?

We just blessed and highly favored, pastor. You bunch of liars. Me too. I understand this.

Here's the reason, man,

does God know what he's talking about? We get one chapter on the honeymoon. We get two chapters on how to fight. About 25% of the whole book is on how to resolve conflict. Why?

Because about 25% of your marriage is usually in conflict. God

knows exactly what he's talking about. But I want to tell you this, your marriage is worth fighting

for. And what I want to convince you of is there is a way to fight fair, and fight's not even

the right word. It's more like resolve conflict. You remember back in chapter 2 verse 15, he says, catch for us the little foxes that are eating the blossoms in our garden.

That when you get this thing right, it's you two on the same side against the conflict,

not you two in your corners trying to duke it out. And fighting often can be an opportunity for God to do some significant work not only in your marriage

but also in you.

And so all couples fight.

Well, dead couples don't fight, but all living couples fight.

And how many of you know that God often uses your spouse to help you be the version

of you that God had in mind when he came up

with you. That marriage is the left lane of sanctification. That I did not know how selfish I was,

what a slob I was, how mean I could be until I got married, because when I was just living

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