All right, team, welcome back to the man talk show.

Connor Beaton here.

And today, I'm going to be sharing how your shadow sabotages your relationship, how your

shadow gets in the way of the connection, the intimacy, the sexual expression that you

deeply desire in your relationship.

So let's start with Mr. Young himself.

He said, until you make the unconscious, conscious, it will direct your life and you

will call it fate.

And in this, he's kind of giving us a clue.

He's saying, the shadow is at work.

Until you take these parts of yourself

that you have made unconscious and bring them into the conscious mind, they will have their own

form of intelligence to direct your life. And you will call it fate. You'll wonder why things

are unfolding that way. And I see this all the time. You've probably seen this too. So many of the men and the couples that I've worked with say something along the

lines of, I don't know why this conflict keeps happening. I don't know why I keep acting this way.

How come I keep effing this up? Why do I keep acting so needy? How come I keep shutting down?

I don't know. Well, it's happening because

your shadow is at play. Your unconscious is getting in the way. In my book, men's work,

I had a line that says your pain has its own intelligence. Well, guess what? Your shadow has its

own intelligence too. Your unconscious is a

form of intelligence. Your shadow is a form of intelligence. And if you are unaware of it and you

don't make yourself aware of it, it will begin to leak out and cause all kinds of havoc in your

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