Why Your Partner's Sexual Past Is Haunting Your Present

Sex With Emily

Health & Fitness, Sexuality

4.2 • 6.7K Ratings

🗓️ 19 September 2025

⏱️ 50 minutes

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0:57.7	hearing their partners past history or they just like to know it. They like to understand where their
1:02.4	partners come from and they can kind of separate it and they're like, okay, good to know. And then
1:07.5	there's other people like Ben who's like, I can't stop thinking about all
1:11.1	these other partners and it's making me feel insecure and now I find myself having these
1:15.7	unwilling judgments against my partner. You're listening to Sex with Emily. I'm Dr. Emily and
1:23.7	I'm here to help you prioritize your pleasure and liberate the conversation around sex. The hotlines are ringing and we are answering today. Producer Eric and I are
1:31.3	diving into all your juicy questions, from navigating discomfort around a partner's sexual
1:35.8	history to finding a third for a threesome. We're also discussing how to prioritize solo
1:39.8	sex during stressful times like divorce and tackling premature ejaculation when you've been building
1:45.0	arousal all day.
1:47.0	Today's callers are asking the real questions.
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